"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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premarital screening questions and how to answer them (cheat sheet needed)

budisudaryo

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Hi guys,

Any of you willing to shed some light on how to answer premarital screening questions? Questions like:

Why are you interested in marrying at this time?
What is your concept of marriage?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
What is the role of the husband?
What is your relationship with your family? (when it's actually bad)
etc.

You know, serious stuff. So I don't think sly, DJ style answers would suffice here. Also, these Q's could also come from her parents. Thanks a lot.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are these Your's or her's? What do YOU want is a better question. I think YOU need to be asking/listening well. Marriage is MORE dangerous to the MAN.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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budisudaryo

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scrouds said:
eharmony? Why?
huh? I don't get you, sorry.

sodbuster said:
Are these Your's or her's? What do YOU want is a better question. I think YOU need to be asking/listening well. Marriage is MORE dangerous to the MAN.....
this is hers. I just imagine a woman would ask some of these questions when she's ready to take it to the next/final step. and of course i don't want to fail these questions.
 

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Be more worried about IF she fails YOUR'S. It's NOT about meeting some woman's expectations like society has brainwashed you to believe. SHE has to be worthy of Marriage to YOU. You think marriage is the "brass ring" but many times it turns into steel handcuffs.

As a DIVORCED man, I can tell you Marriage is like a hot bath.... after awhile it isn't so hot. Pick wisely
 

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If you owe that much explanation to anyone, anyone, you're fücked right off the bat. Take her, drop her off at the parent's house, and tell them to grill her, not you, and get the fück out of there. Insane.
 
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