"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How do you deal with potential incidences, security breeches, compromising situations?

I bust half a nut this morning in the new bit I'm seeing. Immediate thoughts of regret, shame, disgust and annoyance engulfed me. First girl in a very long while whose not on the pill. She's already made it it known having a kid with me is not a negative (red flag).

When she uttered the words "Look... even if I'm pregnant I'll get rid of it" feelings of comfort waved over me. Realistically... I never want to abort anything that I've produced and touch wood *knock* I've never been in that situation (possibly infertile or low sperm count - yet to be verified).

The thought of having a child with a woman I'm not 100% committed to, happy with and ultimately looking to settle down with scares me. I have good genes, good job, charismatic and generally a woman's dream baby father.

I need to be more careful.

I'm sure we have guys here who got locked down (unwillingly) or guy who have regretted the choice in the mother of their kids (granted once the children are born you wouldn't change a thing (or would you?)).

I need to be more careful. I love bareback. It's too costly. Maybe get used to condoms?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why would you be so dumb? Learn to control your bodily functions better
 

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Very impulsive, in the moment and wreckless. I'm seriously going to work on this, it's my Achilles heel.
 

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Oh my good God. This post reads like a nightmare of mine.

Condoms dude. Everyone bangs on about how great bareback is, but is it worth bringing an unwanted human into the world? It's not like you miss out on the orgasm or anything, it's only a slightly dulled sensation right?

Any new chick you're seeing is inherently untrustworthy with this stuff, if she's not on the pill I might not have even gone there with a rubber on - if it splits you're f*cked.

If you think a girl's really hot but you know you can't trust her spermicidal ones are the best.

Once you give a woman your sperm, it's her's to do what she wants with it. Which is potentially terrifying if you can't trust her. My mate nearly got his GF preggers by not using condoms and it drained the life out of him for like a month.

Also, what kind of a woman doesn't bother with contraceptives but just casually aborts pregnancies instead? F*cked up behaviour.
 

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How do you deal with potential incidences, security breeches, compromising situations?

I bust half a nut this morning in the new bit I'm seeing. Immediate thoughts of regret, shame, disgust and annoyance engulfed me. First girl in a very long while whose not on the pill. She's already made it it known having a kid with me is not a negative (red flag).

When she uttered the words "Look... even if I'm pregnant I'll get rid of it" feelings of comfort waved over me. Realistically... I never want to abort anything that I've produced and touch wood *knock* I've never been in that situation (possibly infertile or low sperm count - yet to be verified).

The thought of having a child with a woman I'm not 100% committed to, happy with and ultimately looking to settle down with scares me. I have good genes, good job, charismatic and generally a woman's dream baby father.

I need to be more careful.

I'm sure we have guys here who got locked down (unwillingly) or guy who have regretted the choice in the mother of their kids (granted once the children are born you wouldn't change a thing (or would you?)).

I need to be more careful. I love bareback. It's too costly. Maybe get used to condoms?
Glad u r acknowledging this and taking precautions.

Learn to have a condom with you at all times, keep a spare in ur wallet.

This will spare you a lot of heartaches in the future.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've had condoms on me all the time, my house is littered with them.

I was banging this girl Friday and felt NOTHING.

All my exs have been on the pill, do you know how hard it is to have normal sex for YEARS then go back to condoms?
 

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Sometimes I'd rather just jack off than have sex with a girl with a condom, especially if she's low quality and not that attractive.

So I realized the goal is to find a girl that I wouldn't worry about the consequences with.
 

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I came inside a HB5 4 weeks ago and contracted Chlamydia.
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I've had condoms on me all the time, my house is littered with them.

I was banging this girl Friday and felt NOTHING.

All my exs have been on the pill, do you know how hard it is to have normal sex for YEARS then go back to condoms?
Haha yes I do.

And truth be told I've gotten a few girls pregnant in my youth.

Hence my advice. Gonna save you lots of heartache later on.
 

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What kind of girls are fvcking?

I've been with almost 200 Backpage hookers and never caught anything.
It all depends on luck.

Supposedly innocent girl might be carrying some shiet and spreading it around unknowingly
 

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I am not having a baby with a subpar female. I would rather go to jail for infanticide. I mean this.
 

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Hope u know women don't really "accidently" get pregnant.

If they hv no plans to hv children they'll go extreme lengths to protect themselves.
 

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I am not having a baby with a subpar female. I would rather go to jail for infanticide. I mean this.
With feelings this strong I'd say condoms are non-negotiable for you then. Maybe once you've been with a chick like 2 months and you know she's clean and trustworthy you can not worry about it, but randomers off dating sites are often super clingy and damaged in my experience and I wouldn't trust them with my sperm as far as I can throw them.

Personally it's one thing I'm paranoid over. Even with a GF I wouldn't want to go bareback unless she 100% had my trust. As a higher value male, you are basically in the exact bracket a lunatic woman will want to baby snare.

AFAIK regarding the sensitivity issue, if you just wear condoms every time for a while you will start getting feeling back. Or just cut out any sex/masturbation for like a month (easier said than done, I know). It's like when dudes are circumcised, they are often way less sensitive than uncircumcised guys. Just takes time for your body to get acclimatised.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She won't abort it and you damn well know it, what goes through your mind, please take me through your functions in your brain. Do you really want a child with an unwanted girl? What is your family going to say? Save yourself a big headache and scar because it's going to get worse if you keep busting those nuts raw pal. Don't give yourself that trouble you will regret it A LOT. Use condoms, get thin ones and if she's not on pills then she's ****ing you over because a girl would do anything to not get pregnant.

Don't make the biggest mistake of your life and get on the protection.

Sayanora.
 
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