Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pregnancy and game... sucks!

Mauvilla4

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I've noticed something.
To make the story short, my gf got pregnant - we decided abortion.

While she was pregnant: she hated me, and I mean it, literally (lack of interest in me, all of my atributes suddenly became "dangerous and unsafe- like my motorcicle", she accused me of being too social, she told me that I "scared her", "you look too frightening", etc.)

It reminded me about the alpha fux/beta bux theory, but during pregnancy she hated the alpha (Not saying that Im a 100% alpha, but she perceives me that way, according to the indicators of the chatteau heartiste and rollo tomassi).

Is this normal? Has anyone experienced this too?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lizardking82

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Well, biologically speaking, she becomes very defensive with everyone because the child is "hers". This is deeply rooted in humans, just like it is in lions and every other mammal, the moment the female is pregnant, the only and main goal becomes to protect herself long enough for her to be able to bring the kids to life safely. She doesn't like it that you ride the motorcycle because you might die and she's left without a provider. She doesn't like it that you're too social because some other chick might convince you to leave your girlfriend and that also leads to her having no provider. You get my point, I think
 

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Thanks bro. I was kind of worried that I might be losing my appeal and hence her (I felt something like this on the beta period of her menstrual cycle, but definitly not this high).

But, if the pregnancy was meant to continue, what would it be the best behaviour to assume?

I mean, if I change to a supportive and less alpha behavior she might be happy at the time, but wouldn't it compromise her overall impression of me (I'm taking for granted that Im predominantly alpha in her mind).
 

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Her feelings toward you changed because when she looks at you, she sees you as the reason for the abortion.
 

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Her feelings toward you changed because when she looks at you, she sees you as the reason for the abortion.
I mean, her feelings changed when she was pregnant (Im not sure of how is she going to react, because this happened two days ago). And Im confused about her pregnancy days specifically.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Her feelings toward you changed because when she looks at you, she sees you as the reason for the abortion.
Well, even if that happened, that's her biatch. To have a baby, both parents need to consent that, it is not a small decision.
 

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Well, even if that happened, that's her biatch. To have a baby, both parents need to consent that, it is not a small decision.
I'm not saying if she's right or wrong. He was asking why her feelings changed and I was simply telling him why.
 

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Significant changes in behavior is a very common symptom of pregnancy. Anything weird a woman does while pregnant is normal, because it's normal for women to do all sorts of weird sh!t while pregnant.
 
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