"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Preemptively Prude?

TheNewStyle123

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What's up gentlemen.

Background: There is a really hot girl that goes to my gym: tall, nice ass, beautiful face, etc. I have never approached her in the gym as she always has her headphones in and does not look like she wants to be bothered. However, last week we matched on a dating app and she starting talking to me in the gym. I asked her to get drinks and we went out last Wednesday. Date went well, good kino, and made out. I asked her to come to my place this weekend (tonight) and she accepted.

Situation: All week she has texted me and interest level seems good. However, this morning she texts me "I feel like death right now but hopefully will feel better later (fingers crossed emoji). Lady things ahaha not drinking." She inferring she isn't hung over from drinking but is on her period. That's fine. But what is the move here? Could this girl be so prude that she is stating right off that bat that she is on her period and there is no way we are f!cking tonight? I guess there is always the possibility of getting head, but to me it seems pretty forward.

I could go about this two ways. Text her back and say no worries if she is feeling sick, we can always plan for next weekend. I have 2 other plates that would probably be able to come over tonight anyways (although I want to get this girl as a plate as well). Or I could still have this girl over tonight - showing that I'm willing to wait. Could this be a sh!t test??

Thanks boys.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There will be other opinions, but I personally would text back "No problem. You stay in tonight and feel better. We'll make it some other time" or something similar.

In so doing I would be demonstrating that I'm unruffled about not seeing her tonight, that I'm easy-going and I can easily do without her. It also carries a light implication that I'm wise to her subtle message (about no sex) if indeed this is a subtle message. And I do think the message is there.

If she has enough interest she will make it easy to see her again. If not, then no harm no foul. You're just nipping a problem in the bud. Either way you can't lose. But the bottom line is that you've demonstrated that you're unaffected by her, which is a very good thing.
 

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There will be other opinions, but I personally would text back "No problem. You stay in tonight and feel better. We'll make it some other time" or something similar.

In so doing I would be demonstrating that I'm unruffled about not seeing her tonight, that I'm easy-going and I can easily do without her. It also carries a light implication that I'm wise to her subtle message (about no sex) if indeed this is a subtle message. And I do think the message is there.

If she has enough interest she will make it easy to see her again. If not, then no harm no foul. You're just nipping a problem in the bud. Either way you can't lose. But the bottom line is that you've demonstrated that you're unaffected by her, which is a very good thing.
I agree man. Good advice, thank you!
 

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No problem. It also gives you complete control of the situation. Instead of her deciding, You have decided. That’s good for you as a man and good for her to see.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just let her know it's no big deal and you can reschedule for another time. Then let her come back to you. This is the key part that a lot of guys screw up...they start chasing the woman trying to make plans again. No. You let her initiate and her reschedule. If this is a real issue and she wasn't flaking she will. If not then she won't. Simple.
 

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Just let her know it's no big deal and you can reschedule for another time. Then let her come back to you. This is the key part that a lot of guys screw up...they start chasing the woman trying to make plans again. No. You let her initiate and her reschedule. If this is a real issue and she wasn't flaking she will. If not then she won't. Simple.
So true brother thank you!
 
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