You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Oh thanks for the vote of confidence... :woo:Bvbidd said:... She'll probally even flake on ya.
Yeah. Real nice help there, BvbiddFrancisco d'Anconia said:Oh thanks for the vote of confidence... :woo:
I just had a strange epiphany (alright, it was just a brain-fart) about phone calls and coffee dates, to me it seems that a phone call to someone who you know kinda well (you've at least had face-to-face rapport) a bit overkill. It's just coffee, not a dinner date. Why not ask her in person, just casual y'know?slitherjef said:Yeah. Real nice help there, Bvbidd
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Actualy it does make sense.Francisco d'Anconia said:I just had a strange epiphany (alright, it was just a brain-fart) about phone calls and coffee dates, to me it seems that a phone call to someone who you know kinda well (you've at least had face-to-face rapport) a bit overkill. It's just coffee, not a dinner date. Why not ask her in person, just casual y'know?
The telephone thing seems like it would be for making less off the cuff type plans, things a bit more weighty than just coffee. Maybe that's why it seems kinda strange to phone for something as simple as coffee. Does that make any sense?
Good point! I like that idea.The Inside Man said:Just feel the vibe, whip open the phone and roll with it.