"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Pre-Bible Era

syncmaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 4, 2001
Messages
2,160
Reaction score
7
Age
40
Location
Ottawa,Ontario, Canada
Yeah, things were a lot better back then. It was a community we knew pretty much everybody. Right now it feels very impresonal.. that may be becase i haven't been here in a few years - but still.
When you get the chance read the old dj bible. you'll find it's VERY different from the new one. Much more quality material.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

syncmaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 4, 2001
Messages
2,160
Reaction score
7
Age
40
Location
Ottawa,Ontario, Canada
I've been on and off for the past while posting a few articles - now i have a feeling i'll be back for a while ;)... i might see if Allan will give me mod status again. That would be cool :)
 

Wyldfire

Banned
Joined
Oct 25, 2001
Messages
9,104
Reaction score
28
Originally posted by syncmaster
I've been on and off for the past while posting a few articles - now i have a feeling i'll be back for a while ;)... i might see if Allan will give me mod status again. That would be cool :)
sync...I think that's a wonderful idea! You were a great moderator.
 

Paradox

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 24, 2001
Messages
2,584
Reaction score
25
Location
USA
Originally posted by syncmaster
I've been on and off for the past while posting a few articles - now i have a feeling i'll be back for a while ;)... i might see if Allan will give me mod status again. That would be cool :)
Well....actually a spot has just opened up :rolleyes:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Wyldfire

Banned
Joined
Oct 25, 2001
Messages
9,104
Reaction score
28
Originally posted by Paradox
Well....actually a spot has just opened up :rolleyes:
syncmaster would be perfect for the job. He's done it before (and did a good job) and Allen already knows what kind of moderator he'd be.
 

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Greetings dood. Where teh fock have j00 been y0?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

DJ_in_making

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 20, 2004
Messages
924
Reaction score
2
Age
38
Location
Big Ole apple
u guys are vets!

I always look up to the old school people. Even though I was here when there was a bible, I was around long enough remember the old colors.
Back then I lived on the bible alone, no discussion forum. And I guess it was better that way, b/c the discussion forum is mainly a bunch of guys too lazy to read the bible.

Bring the gold back!!:cuss:
 

syncmaster

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 4, 2001
Messages
2,160
Reaction score
7
Age
40
Location
Ottawa,Ontario, Canada
I actually think we'd be better off if we got rid of the bible all together. That way instead of people always saying "go read the bible" and not helping each other it becomes more of a community again.
 

DJ_in_making

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 20, 2004
Messages
924
Reaction score
2
Age
38
Location
Big Ole apple
Originally posted by syncmaster
I actually think we'd be better off if we got rid of the bible all together. That way instead of people always saying "go read the bible" and not helping each other it becomes more of a community again.
I agree that it's better as a community thing. But I think people should read the bible first, then ask any unclear questions! B/c the bible is basically a bunch of discussion forum posts that have been selected as tips
 

Eternal

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 7, 2001
Messages
5,511
Reaction score
10
Hey Adam, good to see you back (yet again.)

Just PM Allen for the spot.

BTW: Go old yellow board color!
 
Top