"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Practicing the Suave Ethics

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Don't even try to analyze the card. It doesn't matter at this point. She either LJBFed you or she didn't.
But if she did it's easy to see why.

Sleeping in the same bed and not ****ing is probably the worst move you could possibly make.

If you don't want to F her yet then avoid sleeping with her.

IF she was at all into you I GUARANTEE she was thinking, "What's wrong with this guy and why isn't he giving me crazy sex right now?!"

That doesn't mean you can't salvage it but you are one step closer to the freindzone. Next time you see her make a sexual move (as long as it's natural with the situation).
If she accepts then you know you haven't been LJBFed.
 

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wow that was THE most AFC thing u could do.........you were nto sexual the least bit.......just imagine if u threw sexuality into the mix with everything else, this woman would love u in every way!!!

by the way, did u 2 kiss/cuddle??

Teflon - they dont NEED to have sex, they just NEED to do somethin that shows them as more than just friends, kissing would do the trick

of course, if that were ME, we all kno wat i woulda done lol
 

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If you don't sleep with her next time (as in not literally...), you will be in the friend's zone. You probably already are. Skip your gentlemanly bullsh1t. Women want to be fvcked.
 

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hey now shifty, as i said, if it were ME, i woudla ****ed her so good that shed b writing me a porn letter wantin me to **** her again..........but im just tellin this guy that if he made out with her at least, he didnt **** up COMPLETELY........and that note she wrote him, makes it sound like shes interested in somethin LTR, but yea shifty i agree that in that case, u GOTTA **** her
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay? So you're not worried about being LBJFed by this chick?
And you're trying to analyze what this line in this card could mean from a future girl you haven't met?

DON'T.

Just learn from this situation and you won't have to worry about getting LJBFed.

The problem here isn't that you didn't F her. I can understand that. I haven't hooked up with girls becuase of I didn't want to have to deal with the consiquences.

But I've never put myself in a situation where the NATURAL ORDER is to get sexual and then not. This is what you did. Unless you're dating a Mormon or a girl from 1950 then this is extremely unatractive and weird. Even if the girl doesn't want to move fast, assuming she has the slightest bit of experience with men, she will think it's weird.

BTW, to answer your question, that line from that card could be good or bad.
 

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Count_Anthony_II said:
My question for Brethren and Masters of the Don Juan's, in the future if I find someone I'm really into do I want to becareful of the lines .. " YOUR EASY TO TALK TO" .. would that or could that lead to the . " Just Friends " Zone ?
You're in a good but precarious place with this woman. All signs says that she's interested (hell, she's "sleeping" with you) but in some instances it could derail into the LJBF zone, but there's no reason for you to worry (yet) as long as you progress your interactions.

Being easy to talk to is a good thing, but your progression should be to the point of her being completely comfortable with you and her feeling comfortable with you taking the lead in the direction of the relationship.
 

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Feelings and Emotions

I would agree with Francisco. A women uses her feelings and emotions to make decisions. I know its not always the smartest thing, but in this case it could work out to your advantage. She is not looking for a man to be friends with she is looking for a partner, at 38 she is mature enough to realize that she will need to straighten out her love life in the near future.

Her being older, would make her look for sombody younger good looking and moderately successful. You being a gentleman is not hurting the situation, you are showing her that you are on the same level as her. She is looking for a mate and if thats what you would like to get out of it with her, continue on your path although proceed by giving her physical attention as well, the power of a man's touch can powerful to most women.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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skip2mylou781 said:
hey now shifty, as i said, if it were ME, i woudla ****ed her so good that shed b writing me a porn letter wantin me to **** her again..........but im just tellin this guy that if he made out with her at least, he didnt **** up COMPLETELY........and that note she wrote him, makes it sound like shes interested in somethin LTR, but yea shifty i agree that in that case, u GOTTA **** her
lmao, sorry I didn't mean "skip" as in you, I meant the definition (bypass, forget, move past, etc). I agreed with what you wrote.
 

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Count_Anthony_II said:
Word ! .. This is interseting and most appreciated advice. I just wasn't sure if I should sleep with the woman, I mean granted sure I would, but I just didn't want the feelings coming from her side of ... " boyfriend/girlfriend" status. That's why I didn't go there.
Trust me, just because you can sleep with a woman it doesn't mean that you have to. ;)
 
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