"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Practicing the Suave Ethics

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Don't even try to analyze the card. It doesn't matter at this point. She either LJBFed you or she didn't.
But if she did it's easy to see why.

Sleeping in the same bed and not ****ing is probably the worst move you could possibly make.

If you don't want to F her yet then avoid sleeping with her.

IF she was at all into you I GUARANTEE she was thinking, "What's wrong with this guy and why isn't he giving me crazy sex right now?!"

That doesn't mean you can't salvage it but you are one step closer to the freindzone. Next time you see her make a sexual move (as long as it's natural with the situation).
If she accepts then you know you haven't been LJBFed.
 

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wow that was THE most AFC thing u could do.........you were nto sexual the least bit.......just imagine if u threw sexuality into the mix with everything else, this woman would love u in every way!!!

by the way, did u 2 kiss/cuddle??

Teflon - they dont NEED to have sex, they just NEED to do somethin that shows them as more than just friends, kissing would do the trick

of course, if that were ME, we all kno wat i woulda done lol
 

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If you don't sleep with her next time (as in not literally...), you will be in the friend's zone. You probably already are. Skip your gentlemanly bullsh1t. Women want to be fvcked.
 

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hey now shifty, as i said, if it were ME, i woudla ****ed her so good that shed b writing me a porn letter wantin me to **** her again..........but im just tellin this guy that if he made out with her at least, he didnt **** up COMPLETELY........and that note she wrote him, makes it sound like shes interested in somethin LTR, but yea shifty i agree that in that case, u GOTTA **** her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Okay? So you're not worried about being LBJFed by this chick?
And you're trying to analyze what this line in this card could mean from a future girl you haven't met?

DON'T.

Just learn from this situation and you won't have to worry about getting LJBFed.

The problem here isn't that you didn't F her. I can understand that. I haven't hooked up with girls becuase of I didn't want to have to deal with the consiquences.

But I've never put myself in a situation where the NATURAL ORDER is to get sexual and then not. This is what you did. Unless you're dating a Mormon or a girl from 1950 then this is extremely unatractive and weird. Even if the girl doesn't want to move fast, assuming she has the slightest bit of experience with men, she will think it's weird.

BTW, to answer your question, that line from that card could be good or bad.
 

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Count_Anthony_II said:
My question for Brethren and Masters of the Don Juan's, in the future if I find someone I'm really into do I want to becareful of the lines .. " YOUR EASY TO TALK TO" .. would that or could that lead to the . " Just Friends " Zone ?
You're in a good but precarious place with this woman. All signs says that she's interested (hell, she's "sleeping" with you) but in some instances it could derail into the LJBF zone, but there's no reason for you to worry (yet) as long as you progress your interactions.

Being easy to talk to is a good thing, but your progression should be to the point of her being completely comfortable with you and her feeling comfortable with you taking the lead in the direction of the relationship.
 

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Feelings and Emotions

I would agree with Francisco. A women uses her feelings and emotions to make decisions. I know its not always the smartest thing, but in this case it could work out to your advantage. She is not looking for a man to be friends with she is looking for a partner, at 38 she is mature enough to realize that she will need to straighten out her love life in the near future.

Her being older, would make her look for sombody younger good looking and moderately successful. You being a gentleman is not hurting the situation, you are showing her that you are on the same level as her. She is looking for a mate and if thats what you would like to get out of it with her, continue on your path although proceed by giving her physical attention as well, the power of a man's touch can powerful to most women.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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skip2mylou781 said:
hey now shifty, as i said, if it were ME, i woudla ****ed her so good that shed b writing me a porn letter wantin me to **** her again..........but im just tellin this guy that if he made out with her at least, he didnt **** up COMPLETELY........and that note she wrote him, makes it sound like shes interested in somethin LTR, but yea shifty i agree that in that case, u GOTTA **** her
lmao, sorry I didn't mean "skip" as in you, I meant the definition (bypass, forget, move past, etc). I agreed with what you wrote.
 

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Count_Anthony_II said:
Word ! .. This is interseting and most appreciated advice. I just wasn't sure if I should sleep with the woman, I mean granted sure I would, but I just didn't want the feelings coming from her side of ... " boyfriend/girlfriend" status. That's why I didn't go there.
Trust me, just because you can sleep with a woman it doesn't mean that you have to. ;)
 
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