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Seen lots of people giving suggestions on different topics. I have been coming to this website to seek help whenever I have had doubts. But, the question is, do the suggestions coming from most of the people here are genuine? I mean, I see lots of negativities here. Never ever has someone tried to sort someone's problem but rather they have blamed the 'female' for causing so many problems. Do guys here even practice what they preach? Or are they just trying to influence others' lives when they are still the same miserable beta males? Going to get a lot of hate comments on this for sure but wtf I had to say this.
 

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I just joined and the comments on my thread were fantastic, I was surprised about how much value the guys on this forum give. I do think most people like to learn and "teach", because through "teaching" people learn. Most people probably don't realize they're not in a position at all to give advice and are talking more to themselves than actually helping the person they're talking to... Which makes sense because you're on a FREE forum.

The guys who mastered this--although there are probably a few of them on here--will for most part continue their lives or asking for pay to teach. When you truly incorporated all the behaviors you want regarding women, you don't have to play teacher anymore. To still continue giving advice after reaching this level would be true altruism and few people are like that. I'm sure as hell am not an altriust.
 

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Never ever has someone tried to sort someone's problem but rather they have blamed the 'female' for causing so many problems.
Yes and no.
Yes, your observation seems quite accurate, but no, some of us do not fall under that umbrella.

And by the way... if that's your first impression of this forum, I'd like to change that and offer you a belated welcome to this place.

I've do not personally know any of the forum members, but here's my observation.
Those that are known for always blaming a woman in a situation. are typically the same members that will posture, flex and challenge new members here. They hardly offer the new member anything constructive, but it's an opportunity to put the new member down.

I agree with you. It's a sign of weakness. There's no excuse, and here's my theory.

They aren't successful. Instead of accepting their failures with women and working on themselves. They are in denial and place entire blame on women. In fact, they are such failures, that their only feelings of self-worth are usually gained by putting down the new forum member,
New members are on new territory here and also usually walking wounded when they arrive. Picture in your mind an elementary school playground. The new member is like the new kid in elementary school and a bit vulnerable. The older forum member is like the overgrown 5th grader that failed a couple of grades.

Sometimes, the over-grown flunked 5th grader doesn't evolve. Instead, he hangs out on the internet.

Got a new problem? Post it here and if I think that I can offer a new perspective, I'll be glad to respond. I'm sure that some others will also be glad to assist.
 

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Let's start by saying that everything anyone ever says is projection by definition, and at least half of what is said here has little to no value. As with everything else, you need to consider what you read with skepticism.

You should also consider that the red pill journey is not an easy one, some people are starting the journey and some are much further down it; and some people are hopelessly derranged. You'll learn who to block pretty quickly if you have a healthy perspective on life.
 

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I just joined and the comments on my thread were fantastic, I was surprised about how much value the guys on this forum give. I do think most people like to learn and "teach", because through "teaching" people learn. Most people probably don't realize they're not in a position at all to give advice and are talking more to themselves than actually helping the person they're talking to... Which makes sense because you're on a FREE forum.

The guys who mastered this--although there are probably a few of them on here--will for most part continue their lives or asking for pay to teach. When you truly incorporated all the behaviors you want regarding women, you don't have to play teacher anymore. To still continue giving advice after reaching this level would be true altruism and few people are like that. I'm sure as hell am not an altriust.
You did all this adjustment for them how much did they do for you?
 

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I will say that the advice I give, is ALWAYS what I believe is the right path. Having said that, I have trouble sometimes following my own advice. Emotions get involved....
 

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Impossible to really say who’s living what they preach. No way to ever really know, unless you got their computer or data Info, and tracked them down, then hired a PI to see if they were congruent with how they represented them-self on an anonymous forum.

The only real congruence you should worry about is your own. Life’s about sorting through presented answers to our questions and trying out best to make something fit that feels right for our own growth and evolution. Some answers and perspectives resonate with some here and others don’t. What works for one won’t work for many. There’s so many variables at play that there is no one right answer.

the best question is do you practice what you preach?
Don't worry about anyone else, in my opinion.

I ignore the constant fights of who is right or trying to be Alpha dog on an Internet forum - lol - and tend to focus on evolving my perspective and knowledge. If someone wants to hate on me, it actually has nothing to do with me, really.
Anyone who wants to belittle a poster because he’s being vulnerable or in seek of something is really just wounded or has a desire to be seen as superior. Because someone with true strength will be compassionate with appropriate challenge and seeking to further them. But attempting to be superior is just a person who feels inferior.
 

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Well its a tough subject. Right in one viewpoint is wrong in another.
 

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Impossible to really say who’s living what they preach. No way to ever really know, unless you got their computer or data Info, and tracked them down, then hired a PI to see if they were congruent with how they represented them-self on an anonymous forum.

The only real congruence you should worry about is your own. Life’s about sorting through presented answers to our questions and trying out best to make something fit that feels right for our own growth and evolution. Some answers and perspectives resonate with some here and others don’t. What works for one won’t work for many. There’s so many variables at play that there is no one right answer.

the best question is do you practice what you preach?
Don't worry about anyone else, in my opinion.

I ignore the constant fights of who is right or trying to be Alpha dog on an Internet forum - lol - and tend to focus on evolving my perspective and knowledge. If someone wants to hate on me, it actually has nothing to do with me, really.
Anyone who wants to belittle a poster because he’s being vulnerable or in seek of something is really just wounded or has a desire to be seen as superior. Because someone with true strength will be compassionate with appropriate challenge and seeking to further them. But attempting to be superior is just a person who feels inferior.
This is true. I never once cared if someone is congruent or not. That’s because I’m never seeking. I don’t need to believe in anybody in order to restore faith in myself, lol. I just take what is useful and discard the rest.

I never understood the thought process behind caring about other people’s congruency. Your life has to be completely empty with no challenges, obstacles, and pressures for you to even entertain thoughts about other people’s lives on a stinkin Internet forum. Lmao.

I have enough on my plate that I wouldnt waste a brain cell on my own friends and family let alone internet strangers. I’m not negligent with friends and family, I just believe in personal will. No one should babysit anyone.

If something resonates with you, great. If it doesn’t, then move on. It’s not that complicated.

keep this in mind though, some people are able to speak of really high frames. These people had to experience it. You can’t speak of what your mind cannot conceive.

This is why I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt when they speak of the highest frames. They couldn’t have just made it up out of thin air. In order to understand the highest frames and be able to communicate it, you have to have some experience operating in that frame, otherwise the mind would not be able to even conceive such ideas.
 

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keep this in mind though, some people are able to speak of really high frames. These people had to experience it. You can’t speak of what your mind cannot conceive.

This is why I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt when they speak of the highest frames. They couldn’t have just made it up out of thin air. In order to understand the highest frames and be able to communicate it, you have to have some experience operating in that frame, otherwise the mind would not be able to even conceive such ideas.
I do agree with this sentiment.

However to play the devils advocate, I will state that many who logic their way in discussions and make relatively valid points - knowing the theory - could in fact be ones who have wet cardboard frames in their relationships or overall existence. But as you and I have stated earlier, you take what works and keep moving forward in to our lives and discard the rest.
 

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Never ever has someone tried to sort someone's problem but rather they have blamed the 'female' for causing so many problems.
Not true. I try really hard to sort through someone's problems in constructive ways and I do roast the guy seeking advice when appropriate. I'm certainly not the only one doing this either, there are several great and balanced posters here. However, on average there is a noticeable bias.

Blaming women won't ever solve anything, even if they are to be blamed. We do not control women, we can only control our own actions in relation to them.

Do guys here even practice what they preach?
I can't speak for everyone, but I preach what I practice. Meaning that what I preach I already consistently do, like a habit, almost involuntarily.

Let's start by saying that everything anyone ever says is projection by definition
Yeah, we all speak from personal experience, myself included.
 

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Search red pill rage here. Just like in rest of life some people get 'stuck'. I mainly hang here to help out as I was helped. Although that's probably coming to an end as I m finding the average arrogance and lack of gratitude of the younglings is increasing.

Still learn plenty. Nobody can be smarter than the collected wisdom of 000s of great men who have passed thru here. Remember most of this is about human nature. We re still waiting for the 2.0 release.

If u scan somebody s backtrail of posts you ll soon work out who they are. Think for yourself, test infield and customize for u and u will do fine here.

Some posters have Walter Mitty/Fakebook syndrome. They start off asking the usual questions and a few months later are telling other men how to live their lives.

Just remember human dynamics is always contextual. RSD Julian I was meant to have Stellar club game. If u dropped him into a mayflower ball or a country dance he might not do so well.

Welcome to the cave pull up a rock.
 

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I just joined and the comments on my thread were fantastic, I was surprised about how much value the guys on this forum give. I do think most people like to learn and "teach", because through "teaching" people learn. Most people probably don't realize they're not in a position at all to give advice and are talking more to themselves than actually helping the person they're talking to... Which makes sense because you're on a FREE forum.

The guys who mastered this--although there are probably a few of them on here--will for most part continue their lives or asking for pay to teach. When you truly incorporated all the behaviors you want regarding women, you don't have to play teacher anymore. To still continue giving advice after reaching this level would be true altruism and few people are like that. I'm sure as hell am not an altriust.
Its often easier to help others than to help ourselves because we are often too close to see the big picture.

Ive learn so much from this forum, i still come here because it still keep me sharp, and once in a while a thread or a conversation make me see things even clearer.


I dont always do what i preach but i try most of the time
 

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Search red pill rage here. Just like in rest of life some people get 'stuck'. I mainly hang here to help out as I was helped. Although that's probably coming to an end as I m finding the average arrogance and lack of gratitude of the younglings is increasing.

Still learn plenty. Nobody can be smarter than the collected wisdom of 000s of great men who have passed thru here. Remember most of this is about human nature. We re still waiting for the 2.0 release.

If u scan somebody s backtrail of posts you ll soon work out who they are. Think for yourself, test infield and customize for u and u will do fine here.

Some posters have Walter Mitty/Fakebook syndrome. They start off asking the usual questions and a few months later are telling other men how to live their lives.

Just remember human dynamics is always contextual. RSD Julian I was meant to have Stellar club game. If u dropped him into a mayflower ball or a country dance he might not do so well.

Welcome to the cave pull up a rock.
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Search red pill rage here. Just like in rest of life some people get 'stuck'. I mainly hang here to help out as I was helped. Although that's probably coming to an end as I m finding the average arrogance and lack of gratitude of the younglings is increasing.

Still learn plenty. Nobody can be smarter than the collected wisdom of 000s of great men who have passed thru here. Remember most of this is about human nature. We re still waiting for the 2.0 release.

If u scan somebody s backtrail of posts you ll soon work out who they are. Think for yourself, test infield and customize for u and u will do fine here.

Some posters have Walter Mitty/Fakebook syndrome. They start off asking the usual questions and a few months later are telling other men how to live their lives.

Just remember human dynamics is always contextual. RSD Julian I was meant to have Stellar club game. If u dropped him into a mayflower ball or a country dance he might not do so well.

Welcome to the cave pull up a rock.
I’ve seen this happen too. One minute a poster is completely clueless and asking me newbie questions, and literally a few days to weeks later, that same poster is trying to calibrate me, telling me I shouldn’t do such and such because it’s coming from a weak frame. Lol.

And the funny thing is, they would try and use my own principles to argue against me. Lmao.

It seems like guys go from virgins to master don juans in a matter of a few posts/likes in this forum.

Either this forum is very effective at turning incels into don Juan’s overnight or some of these posters never leave their dungeons and try to completely intellectualize everything in their heads.

You can usually tell who these posters are. Sometimes I would say something. And then I would appear to contradict myself and they would jump all over it telling me I am wrong. But in reality I was merely describing a dichotomy- two opposing truths existing at the same time. Life is full of dichotomies. It’s never black and white.

Depending on one social context, something could be true. But in a different social context, that same principle no longer applies.

Which is a why a poster has to go out and experience life for himself rather than mentally masturbate on the forums and trying to intellectually build himself into becoming popular or a Don Juan or some sh1t.
 
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Haha @mrgoodstuff where did you get that pic of spaz.

Damnit I never thought I d say this but looking at the abysmal quality of the clones I kind of miss Poonking.

At least with him he tried to help in his own way it wasn't all propaganda and one up man ship.

And he was good with the ladies he just spent too much time on his soapbox to share much of that.
 
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