"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Practice makes natural

Kourt

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Hey guys, I've noticed that over time, dj tips/tatics have become natural for me. Basicly when you learn a new tatic, use it and eventually you will use it without even thinking about it.

For example, today I ran into a girl I had been working at the college foodplace. I talked to her for about 5 minutes before I went on my way to eat. I didnt really 'try' or put to much importance on the conversation, but now looking back on it I realize that many DJ principles have become second hand for me. I cracked C&F jokes but I wasn't like, ok nows the time for C&F. Grabbed her hand and made fun of how she had ink all over her hand from her pen, but I didnt think ok, nows time for more C&F/Kino.

So what I'm saying here is while at first you may have to think about what you need to do, and it is more awkward/unatural, eventually you can incorporate these into 'game' and then thats when you really begin to excel.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Let me add that practice does not mean mindless repetition.
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Let me add that practice does not mean mindless repetition.
When is practice not mindless repetition?

Few guys here are skilled enough AND creative enough to make stuff up as they go, to work without a plan and procedures.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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