"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Practice: Answer this question as quickly as possible without much thought.

Dannyrt34

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Alright guys. I want to try something. I'm going to give an 'example' situation I was in last night and would like you to answer as quickly as possible without taking much time to think about it. I'd like you to describe what you would say to the girl, and how you would act around her. Describe things you might bring up in the conversation as well, go into alot of detail.

This is to help some guys practice thinking up things on the spur of the moment, which is a great skill to have when doing an approach. After a good number of answers, I'll then post what I did in the situation, and it worked for me.

Here's the example situation:

You're at a club by yourself on a saturday night. You sit down to have a drink, and notice a cute girl sitting about 5 seats down. She appears to be by herself too. She's surrounded by people, but none of them seem to be paying any attention to her, so you assume she's by herself. You don't feel like dancing, but you'd really like to meet her somehow.

Now what would YOU do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I say hi!
 
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"Babe, I want to get into your pants. How about we do the horizontal dance? Bring your girlfriend, I'll be the meat inside the sandwich."
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
Now what would YOU do?
Enjoy looking at her breasts for a minute, assume she's a wh0re since she's at a club and consider telling her she's a wh0re but she'd say "what'd you say" 10 times over the ****ty music so instead I try to find my friends and ask if we can get out of here already because I'm tired of watching girls with their sh1t hangin out getting their legs humped by ugly dudes. Then when I got home I'd use vaseline for the anal rapage I got for the cover charge.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AFC losers flame on u by being sarcastic, and guys who actually mite b good with girls give u real advice, just like i said in my other thread!!

in all honesty, if u see the girl and u think shes hot, DO NOT HESITATE and just go up to her and say ANYTHING...if u **** up, ull at least have practice under ur belt........

worst case scenario - uve just made an approach for practice, but got rejected

best case scenario - ull be ****in her brains out later that nite

U TELL ME, WHAT WOULD U DO? WOULD U JUST SIT THERE, OR WOULD U APPROACH?
 

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Right on the spot I would say..

"So you are another one of the girls that comes to clubs to sit around and act bored?" With a smile, see her reaction. Depending on what she says, I can't really make up a convo with details. That is the first thing I came up with though.
 

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Wee said:
Right on the spot I would say..

"So you are another one of the girls that comes to clubs to sit around and act bored?" With a smile, see her reaction. Depending on what she says, I can't really make up a convo with details. That is the first thing I came up with though.

thats a GREAT neg hit (for anyone tryin to take notes on how to deliver neghits).......keep in mind, its a good neghit no matter wat her reaction is, and the truth is, if she thinks ur good looking, then she'll b all urs after u say this.......but if she thinks ur ugly/not good enough for her, then u never had a chance in the first place, BUT BY ALL MEANS DONT BLAME THE NEG HIT, CUZ ITS GOLDEN
 

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i'd look in her direction and if she looks in my direction, i'll try to make eye contact and smile. if she smiles, i'll say 'hi, what your name', then try to start a conversation about the club


my approach game sucks, as you may or may not see

great thread.
 

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hope7 said:
i'd look in her direction and if she looks in my direction, i'll try to make eye contact and smile. if she smiles, i'll say 'hi, what your name', then try to start a conversation about the club


my approach game sucks, as you may or may not see

great thread.

u dont NEED eye contact to approach....it most deff helps, but if u want the girl, then GO GET HER
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Honestly? Well, I would probably just go up to her, say "Hey, how's it going?" and try to strike up conversation with her.
 

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I chat her up like I chat up women in everyday life.
 

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I don't see women alone in the bar, that's the problem. If there's a woman alone in the bar, she will be hit on ALL NIGHT LONG.
 

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And I thought this post would be pointless! Good neg hit.

True, there's usually so many ****ing hornballs splooging on her naval before she can become bored, but if it was a situation like that in a bar where the music isn't so damn loud that you can't hear yourself think..... that's the best approach.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would wait for eye contact,she will look around and then go up and approach her.
 
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