"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Practice: Answer this question as quickly as possible without much thought.

Dannyrt34

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Alright guys. I want to try something. I'm going to give an 'example' situation I was in last night and would like you to answer as quickly as possible without taking much time to think about it. I'd like you to describe what you would say to the girl, and how you would act around her. Describe things you might bring up in the conversation as well, go into alot of detail.

This is to help some guys practice thinking up things on the spur of the moment, which is a great skill to have when doing an approach. After a good number of answers, I'll then post what I did in the situation, and it worked for me.

Here's the example situation:

You're at a club by yourself on a saturday night. You sit down to have a drink, and notice a cute girl sitting about 5 seats down. She appears to be by herself too. She's surrounded by people, but none of them seem to be paying any attention to her, so you assume she's by herself. You don't feel like dancing, but you'd really like to meet her somehow.

Now what would YOU do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I say hi!
 
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"Babe, I want to get into your pants. How about we do the horizontal dance? Bring your girlfriend, I'll be the meat inside the sandwich."
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
Now what would YOU do?
Enjoy looking at her breasts for a minute, assume she's a wh0re since she's at a club and consider telling her she's a wh0re but she'd say "what'd you say" 10 times over the ****ty music so instead I try to find my friends and ask if we can get out of here already because I'm tired of watching girls with their sh1t hangin out getting their legs humped by ugly dudes. Then when I got home I'd use vaseline for the anal rapage I got for the cover charge.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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AFC losers flame on u by being sarcastic, and guys who actually mite b good with girls give u real advice, just like i said in my other thread!!

in all honesty, if u see the girl and u think shes hot, DO NOT HESITATE and just go up to her and say ANYTHING...if u **** up, ull at least have practice under ur belt........

worst case scenario - uve just made an approach for practice, but got rejected

best case scenario - ull be ****in her brains out later that nite

U TELL ME, WHAT WOULD U DO? WOULD U JUST SIT THERE, OR WOULD U APPROACH?
 

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Right on the spot I would say..

"So you are another one of the girls that comes to clubs to sit around and act bored?" With a smile, see her reaction. Depending on what she says, I can't really make up a convo with details. That is the first thing I came up with though.
 

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Wee said:
Right on the spot I would say..

"So you are another one of the girls that comes to clubs to sit around and act bored?" With a smile, see her reaction. Depending on what she says, I can't really make up a convo with details. That is the first thing I came up with though.

thats a GREAT neg hit (for anyone tryin to take notes on how to deliver neghits).......keep in mind, its a good neghit no matter wat her reaction is, and the truth is, if she thinks ur good looking, then she'll b all urs after u say this.......but if she thinks ur ugly/not good enough for her, then u never had a chance in the first place, BUT BY ALL MEANS DONT BLAME THE NEG HIT, CUZ ITS GOLDEN
 

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i'd look in her direction and if she looks in my direction, i'll try to make eye contact and smile. if she smiles, i'll say 'hi, what your name', then try to start a conversation about the club


my approach game sucks, as you may or may not see

great thread.
 

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hope7 said:
i'd look in her direction and if she looks in my direction, i'll try to make eye contact and smile. if she smiles, i'll say 'hi, what your name', then try to start a conversation about the club


my approach game sucks, as you may or may not see

great thread.

u dont NEED eye contact to approach....it most deff helps, but if u want the girl, then GO GET HER
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Honestly? Well, I would probably just go up to her, say "Hey, how's it going?" and try to strike up conversation with her.
 

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I chat her up like I chat up women in everyday life.
 

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I don't see women alone in the bar, that's the problem. If there's a woman alone in the bar, she will be hit on ALL NIGHT LONG.
 

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And I thought this post would be pointless! Good neg hit.

True, there's usually so many ****ing hornballs splooging on her naval before she can become bored, but if it was a situation like that in a bar where the music isn't so damn loud that you can't hear yourself think..... that's the best approach.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I would wait for eye contact,she will look around and then go up and approach her.
 
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