"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Potential Blockers

LADawg49

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Aight, had the date with girl on Friday, take her for lunch and ice cream. We ended up doin sum deep kissing for a lil bit and then took her home and ended with a hug and kiss. Aight, so my intentions is to wait till Wednesday to call her. However, she hasn't called me yet or emailed me since then, is that a bad sign or somethin? Usually when a girl starts kissin a guy, i thought she starts gettin kinda attached to him.
In addition when i call her wednesday, what should I say if her sister or her sister's boyfriend picks up? They could be potential blockers and leaving a message with them, might ruin my chances.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thefonz

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even if a girl really likes you......some just wait for you to do ALL the work. Its sucks but its part of bein a man.

Some dj's will tell you to say something really witty or spontaneous if the sister or brother answers but I would just ask when she will be home and call again later. No point in risking a desperate attempt for approval from the family. If shes not home when they say just leave a message. This is where she has to do something. If she doesn't respond back just next her until she gets off her cute lil ass and calls you.
 

sexualchocolate

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Im not a firm believer in waiting a week to call a chick. She may be thinking you nexted her already or god only knows what the heck they think.

waiting a week to call should only be after a number close, not a first date.

get into text messaging girls with your cell phone. That way you can get your point across without speaking so much over the phone.
 

Wiesman44

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Waiting til Wednesday is too long. Call her on Monday. If it was a good date, she wants to hear from you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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