"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Posture - a few questions

Dirtheart

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Ok, I feel I've mastered the art of holding myself confidently when walking and standing, but there are a few issues I'm having:

It seems like a trivial thing to ask, but what should I do with my hands when I'm standing still?

When I stand with my hands by my side I feel like a soldier standing to attention or, if I let them hang loosely, I feel like I'm trying to be The Hulk. Either way feels totally awkward and must look rather tense.

I smoke, and I find myself smoking more just so I don't have to stand awkwardly.

Another question. How should I sit on a low stool? When I have a backrest on a chair, I'm perfectly comfortable sitting upright, but on a stool it feels very uncomfortable and I'm sure I look like a garden gnome when I sit straight. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Quit trying to act confidant and start to be confidant. Then it will come naturally.
 

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Like a cat,

Keep your hands out of your pockets, don't make fists,
and don't cross your arms or legs.
Claim your space - after all, it belongs to you.

I like to stand with my back to the wall, with my jacket either open or hanging over my shoulder, while the other hand rests either on my hip or the back of my head.

If you see a guy just standing there against the wall with his jacket open and his hands laced behind the back of his head or on his hips, you know he's gotta' be cool.

He is relaxed. Free.

Not a care in the world...



:cool:
 

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Standing -

Lean against a wall casually, legs crossed if you want, shoulders crossed, chin high and confident.

Sitting -

Try avoiding stools unless you are in front of a bar.
 

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LoL

"Standing -

Lean against a wall casually, legs crossed if you want, shoulders crossed, chin high and confident.

Sitting -

Try avoiding stools unless you are in front of a bar."--CaliforniaLove



shoulders crossed... ouch!
Is that even possible? - I wouldn't wanna' find out,
thats for sure.

Picture this, your d*ct is 15" long.
How can you cross your legs if your d*ck is that big?-- You can't!

If your arms and legs are crossed, it makes you seem guarded,
afraid, closed. It is like you are hiding something.
Don't do it.

:cool:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Dude i feel the exact same way!!

i can do it fine for a few secs, but any longer...and i'll just feel awkward. usually after those few secs i just stick my hands in my pocket. on certain occasions ill do it.

like if there's nothing in my hand and i have to stand ill do it.
but if i have a bottle of water or something else in my hand im just fine.
 

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Ive noticed that when you dont think about how you are standing or sitting, is when you do it the most comfortably. Of course not thinking about it is the hard part
 
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