I invited my girlfriend for a drink at a very romantic place which we frequented in the beginning of our relationship. She took control immediately of the conversation and as a defensive mechanism she would not let me get a word in edgewise. She babbled and ranted on and on about how I let her down and then had the gall to ask for a dress which I bought and showed her meant for Christmas. She also asked me to take her to the Andrea Bocelli concert this Wed. evening which I have a pair of tickets to. I was so angry with her that I lied and said that I am going with someone else and she went insane repeating over and over how could I do that. I told her that I lied because she wouldn't let me talk at all and she just repeated again and again "how could I invite her out". She was just repeating that and I must have explained a million times that I lied to shock her into stopping. Nevertheless, we split and it was ugly. I feel terrible but there's no turning back with her.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Postscript.....
- Thread starter Palatino
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