"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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hey all


just wondering, just HOW bad is it to call of the first date?

i know it is a "tactic" to call of the 2nd date and change it to another day, but its just that i just fell down and kind of injured my ancle....cant really walk well...and i dont think i can drive.... :S

do you think she will understand?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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thinking twice....or should i like still have the date and like not making it like a really important issue, but just mention my thing, so she sees im actually willling to "sacrifice a lil" to keep my word/(responsible man) ??

or is that just to desperate?
 
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WTF are you talking about? If you don't have something important that you need to do, there is no reason to cancel the first date! I think she will think you are a complete IDIOT if you pull that lame crap. Go on the date, have a good time, and stop thinking about "tatics" this isn't a wargame Rambo.

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Originally posted by Grey Fox
WTF are you talking about? If you don't have something important that you need to do, there is no reason to cancel the first date! I think she will think you are a complete IDIOT if you pull that lame crap. Go on the date, have a good time, and stop thinking about "tatics" this isn't a wargame Rambo.

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i believe he hurt his ankle.
 
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I think thats the excuse he was planning on using. But if you really did hurt your leg, just change up the date. Have her come over and watch a movie, order out, and let her play nurse when she sees you all laid up, just don't over do it.

-Grey Fox
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's a ugly b****

Think of it like this,

If she was a ugly b****, would you give a damn if you cancelled and she didn't understand?

No, you wouldn't.

Go on with your life. Remember that YOU are the catch, not her.

Anti dump says this in another angle, in another way to see things.

Anti-dump es inspiracion de Pook... :cool: nadamas para que sepas.
 
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Originally posted by Grey Fox
WTF are you talking about? If you don't have something important that you need to do, there is no reason to cancel the first date! I think she will think you are a complete IDIOT if you pull that lame crap. Go on the date, have a good time, and stop thinking about "tatics" this isn't a wargame Rambo.

-Grey Fox
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:eek:

i DID hurt my ancle, I still can kind of "walk" but in a limping way


Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
i believe he hurt his ankle.
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thanks for reading the whole thing :)
 
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My bad, it just read like that was a B.S. excuse. Hope the leg gets better though it never hurts to let a girl play nurse ;)

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I would also like to get the girls number but I'm going on a operation(tonzils) so I couldn't call for a week or 2 after getting the number.I think I'll skip till I get better.
 
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