You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Lifted in the 242's. Most of my training was around 250 lbs. I'm 6'1" Comp lift best 232.5 kgs. Best gym lift 240 kgs touch & go but with a bench shirt and wraps. Best raw 220 kgs.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lol, I have to admit I haven't read this whole thread but it sounds like you guys are doing your job and he might not be passing the smell test? I'll reserve judgement a little longer. Yes, it would get my antenna up for sure. I'm always recruiting. I usually get calls from high school coaches and rarely run across someone in the gym unless schools out. Much of my issue is I'm competing with football for lifters. My 242 collegiate champ was just an ok football player and quit football to dedicate himself to lifting. If I saw this 19 year old though, I would ask him if he has ever competed and does he squat and deadlift. I can't win anything with a bench specialist. I would rather have an adequate bencher and a strong squat and deadlifter. The above lifter had a mid 400 bench but a 650 squat and 770 dl. Those are raw numbers.
Thanks. Form is def not the best and back comes off bench a bit but it will be deemed acceptable at least.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bruh you guys are just showing how pathetic you guys TRULY are by thinking it’s not possible
No, I don't think you understand.
Certainly nothing to be ashamed about. I'm not sure it was worth it in my case. Some sleep apnea, maybe a little inflated ego, some dusty trophies in a box somewhere, and a torn pec. Oh, and the voice of Toby Keith in my head singing, I'm not as good as I once was. Heavy bench pressing is good training for, well, heavy benching. That's about it. Fun times though.
175 and I’d still put lift you in everything fatass
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bro is 34 and looks like an ice cream cone
Cool story. Is that chapter 3 or 4 of this work of fiction you are writing?
My best squat - don’t do 1RMs, think they’re silly - was 315 I’m 5’10, 200lbs, ~10%. I did 5x5’s now I do 5x10 half the weight. Yes they say 2.5xbw, never got closer with Olympic, ass-to-grass back squats.
Not rly go bench your 100 on incline loserBro, is your life really that boring and pathetic? I mean, to me its entertaining, but don't you think you're making a fool of yourself?
Right now I'm taking a $hit and laughing at you how you make me $hitting entertaining. But in a serious advice, you should get out and have hobbies and make friends. Unless you're addicted to p0rn and have ED
Post body and lifts
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I’m going to be real here dog. And no offense. I’d kill myself if I looked like you at the age of ****ing 34. Can’t make this up. It’s OVER. especially cause you think 100 incline is hard ahahhahahahaaBro, is your life really that boring and pathetic? I mean, to me its entertaining, but don't you think you're making a fool of yourself?
Right now I'm taking a $hit and laughing at you how you make me $hitting entertaining. But in a serious advice, you should get out and have hobbies and make friends. Unless you're addicted to p0rn and have ED
I only 1rm on bench anything else especially squats is stupid. I just like lifting heavy.
They are not name calling like you are, they are criticizing and questioning your claims. When you start calling names it’s game over.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.