"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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[Post Sex Game] Just had bad sex

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Alright so this plate, one i've been spinning since an year now, and I had terrible sex just now.

She had cold and was on medications and I have a contusion in my back, which I didn't tell her. Yet the first sesh was mind blowing, the second third rounds not so much, she was dry and all cuz of the meds im assuming.

I haven't been working out, so that's something I'm thinking of doing. Getting in shape.

Also is there any post bang game to reduce the fallout?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I’ve had similar. I make light of it and even laughed once. She is generally more self conscious. If you just chock it up as a silly learning experience then she will follow your lead on it and it won’t mean anything. Maybe she might even turn it into a fun story for her friends.
 

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Sh1t happens. Don't give it much importance, and keep doing whatever you are in the first place. Keep having fun regardless.
Don't overthink it, **** happens just carry on as normal
I’ve had similar. I make light of it and even laughed once. She is generally more self conscious. If you just chock it up as a silly learning experience then she will follow your lead on it and it won’t mean anything. Maybe she might even turn it into a fun story for her friends.
That's encouraging, thanks.

First steps to working out after a break?
 

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Depends on if you want a relationship or not. If you do, and she cares that much about a few bad sessions, she isn't relationship material to begin with. If she's an fbuddy then yeah, different story bc you have to keep their sexual interest. Just ignore it, out of your hands at this point.
"Don't fret over stuff not in our control"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Also is there any post bang game to reduce the fallout?
How do you initiate sex?

This is real life, not a porno. I hope you don't, but never say to a woman "let's have sex", or in anyway let her know that you're both going to have sex.

Women are like kettles, they need time to "boil". Some people called this period "foreplay", but I call it "sex".

Every moment of communication between you and any woman you're sexually involved with is sex.

Yes, sometimes women are just horny, but this isn't most of the time.

I always say there are three different stages (that I know of) that a man understands a woman's sex drive.

Stage 1) Women don't love sex.

Stage 2) Women do love sex and the same way men do.

The reality is that 1) and 2) are only half true. Women don't love sex and women do love sex. Women don't love sex the same way men do, but they do love sex in a different way.

Stage 3) Women love sex, but in a different way to men.

The best way I can think of to describe our different sex drives is that men want sex "now", but women want sex "later".

Men want sex "now", because when we're ready to go, we're ready to go. And women want sex "later" because they need to be "ready" for it.

Our goal (and in this case "your" goal) is to help them be "ready" for it.

Your goal isn't to make her know sex is going to happen, but make her anticipate it.

So, innuendo, covert touching/kino (not obviously sexual and no touching her ass or breasts) and in some cases stop talking and just look at her.
 
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I have been banging plate for three months who is drier than the Sahara desert. It really ruins the mood for me in the bedroom. Seems like she has an issue with lube. She brought over a bottle of her favorite lube she always purchases. I make other chicks wetter than a water park but this chick is drrrryyy. Haha I have been thinking about dropping her and she is a solid 8 but stopping every ten min to apply lube makes my penis soft.
 

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How do you initiate sex?

This is real life, not a porno. I hope you don't, but never say to a woman "let's have sex", or in anyway let her know that you're both going to have sex.

Women are like kettles, they need time to "boil". Some people called this period "foreplay", but I call it "sex".

Every moment of communication between you and any woman you're sexually involved with is sex.

Yes, sometimes women are just horny, but this isn't most of the time.

I always say there are three different stages (that I know of) that a man understands a woman's sex drive.

Stage 1) Women don't love sex.

Stage 2) Women do love sex and the same way men do.

The reality is that 1) and 2) are only half true. Women don't love sex and women do love sex. Women don't love sex the same way men do, but they do love sex in a different way.

Stage 3) Women love sex, but in a different way to men.

The best way I can think of to describe our different sex drives is that men want sex "now", but women want sex "later".

Men want sex "now", because when we're ready to go, we're ready to go. And women want sex "later" because they need to be "ready" for it.

Our goal (and in this case "your" goal) is to help them be "ready" for it.

Your goal isn't to make her know sex is going to happen, but make her anticipate it.

So, innuendo, covert touching/kino (not obviously sexual and no touching her ass or breasts) and in some cases stop talking and just look at her.
That's the right outlook, what I'm more interested in is how to handle game AFTER sex.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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After sex I either go to sleep, kick them out or leave.

Unless this is a relationship what else is there really to it?
 
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