"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So, this girl stayed the night with me after some partying at a bar. She is a girl I met through some friends. Nothing happened that night besides making out and screwing around. She came over the next night, against her room mates advice (from my understanding), and stayed the night. We hooked up.

I know that physically she is pretty darn attracted to me. I am an animal in the bed room(dominant) and am fairly physically fit (gym 3x + sports a week). Caught her staring a time or 2 and she's slipped in comments here and there.

Well after we hooked up that night, she has since kinda flaked on me.

I have a feeling that I have been coming across as needy/nice guy in the texts we have exchanged instead of the dominate alpha I should be conveying. The problem is I'm not sure how to go about that after the hook up.

Advice?

P.S. On a similar note, I have kinda got this same thing with a girl I haven't hooked up with yet(made out) but have been texting... Related problem? Maybe...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just to clarify thoughts on this. Things were sexual, then interactions afterwords, I didn't keep it escalated to sexual to keep that thrill. They got bored and flaked?

I nexted them both either way. Just trying to learn from the experience.
 
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