"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Post hook up flake

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So, this girl stayed the night with me after some partying at a bar. She is a girl I met through some friends. Nothing happened that night besides making out and screwing around. She came over the next night, against her room mates advice (from my understanding), and stayed the night. We hooked up.

I know that physically she is pretty darn attracted to me. I am an animal in the bed room(dominant) and am fairly physically fit (gym 3x + sports a week). Caught her staring a time or 2 and she's slipped in comments here and there.

Well after we hooked up that night, she has since kinda flaked on me.

I have a feeling that I have been coming across as needy/nice guy in the texts we have exchanged instead of the dominate alpha I should be conveying. The problem is I'm not sure how to go about that after the hook up.

Advice?

P.S. On a similar note, I have kinda got this same thing with a girl I haven't hooked up with yet(made out) but have been texting... Related problem? Maybe...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just to clarify thoughts on this. Things were sexual, then interactions afterwords, I didn't keep it escalated to sexual to keep that thrill. They got bored and flaked?

I nexted them both either way. Just trying to learn from the experience.
 
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