"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MountainSlide

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Went on a date with this girl the other day. I had a good time and pretty sure she did too. She texted me right after the date and thanked me with a smiley face. I responded a bit later and said that the pleasure was mine. Waited a couple days and gave her a call. Went to voicemail and I didn’t leave a message. About half an hour later she sent me a voice text and thanked me for the call saying that she was busy running around and asking to call me back later. I texted back a little later and told her sure and that I was a bit busy as well and try giving me a call when she’s free. She didn’t respond to the text and didn’t call me. To be clear, I was calling only to set up second date and I don’t use call or text for just chatting.

My question is simply for the next step. Here’s how I see it. I like this girl more than most other girls I’ve gone on dates with recently, she’s cute, funny, and energetic. My kinda girl. But. I think the proper thing to do is just continue dating other women and wait until she responds. Maybe if I don’t hear from her in a week then I’ll give her call. Does that sound like the proper way to go about the situation?? I’m feeling like this is a sh*t test to see if I’m needy or weak. Because I don’t think I really did anything to reduce the attraction.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MountainSlide

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Also. When she calls. Should I not answer it and make her wait? Or should I pick it up and go for second date.
 

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Stop overthinking this, just wait a few days to a week and give her a call to set another date and in your spare time meet other women, it's that simple. Be positive, Be confident.
 

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Okay. So she messaged me tonight and apologized for not getting back to me and gave me a list of reasons why she didn’t. Then said that she hopes that I’ve been having a wonderful weekend! What’s the strategy to maximize her interest in this situation. Ideas please.
 

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Okay. So she messaged me tonight and apologized for not getting back to me and gave me a list of reasons why she didn’t. Then said that she hopes that I’ve been having a wonderful weekend! What’s the strategy to maximize her interest in this situation. Ideas please.
"Good to hear from you. Let's get together soon...what's your availability?"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Okay. She responds and says that her evenings are busy but mornings and afternoons are free. I’m not trying to have a day date with her though. How do I get around this??
 

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NvM. I just gave her a few options for evenings and asked her if she’d be able to make it work for any of them. If not I’m not wasting my time with morning dates or lunch dates. Just cya later next.
 

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Would she still be busy in the evenings if Brad Pitt....Does she have an odd work schedule, hangs out with her boyfriend in the evening? Things to think about. NEXT
 
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