"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Post breakup reading material

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"The Alchemist" was recommended by a friend as a hugely transformative book in terms of shifting perspective and outlook during periods of emotional instability. I plan to read this around Day 25 of NC and finish it on Day 30.

Have any of you guys found there are certain pieces of literature which have had a profound impact on you during these type of potentially life altering moments?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't do a lot of reading, but I take comfort in things like music and one particular movie called "The Principal". It starts with him beating the 5hit out of his ex-wife's BF's car, and it doesn't have any romance added to the end for the sake of making his life more "complete". He basically says "fvck everything" and works at doing his job the best he can. It's one of the few movies I can say that doesn't encourage any "blue pill" thinking intertwined. He's completely solo in trying to pull himself out of a difficult slump. Just a man for himself, and that's it.
 
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Dear BeThe Change,
I really like the sound of "The principal"don't know if it is available down under...You are not the only one believe me...The best read I can recommend is "The Marriage Diaries"by Bettina Arndt...follows the sex lives of 115 couples...Those poor Guys,the hell these Witches Wives put most of their Husbands through through...read it and realise you are lucky...don't get pressured into it again!
 
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I read The Alchemist on a flight to the Caribbean a week after I told my STBX we were done. It affected me. Probably helped me grieve the relationship and realize it was a step in a journey.

I ordered Love Factually on the advice of the Art of Manliness Podcast.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The red pill, especially the sidebar material. Seduction on reddit, about inner game. Book of pook, the rational male, models, ... Its all good stuff.
 
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Scaramouche said:
I really like the sound of "The principal"don't know if it is available down under
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It's an old movie. You should be able to find it.

I find myself relating to it at the beginning, and then being strengthened by it at the end. Perfect movie for helping you get back on your feet. Here's a clip of total badass goodness...

 
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The "Attitude" section of the DJ Bible.

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Read the Great Gatsby and be glad you're not Gatsby. The ultimate Beta who posed as an Alpha and as soon as he got the girl, he went Beta again and lost it all.
I love the book, but not for the same reason that women do. I read it as a cautionary tale. Nick is the only one who has his poop together. :)
 
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