"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm pretty good at just walking up to someone and asking them how they are, but I have a hard time after the

"How was your day"

"Good. Your's?"

"Good"

Then I'm have trouble getting a topic to discuss. If she starts the converstation, then I'm fine, but sometimes it looks like she's waiting for me to say something else and I have no idea what to talk about. Giving her a compliment right out of the gate isn't my thing, so an enviormental thing would work best I imagine, but how do I get better at doing this? Specifically a girl at the gym that this happens frequently too and I STILL don't know her name...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ok, let me get it out of the way, for the many responsed you'll get saying "Read the DJ Bible", haha.

You need to start throwing topics that interest women, and topics that serve as a bait, that chicks just can't resist commenting on.

Start with opinion openers, make sure the topic is interesting, tempting, controversial (please, not abortion/religion/politics), funny, and one that women seem to feel the need to strongly express their opinion on.
 
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Yeh i could iamgine walking up to a girl:

Me: Hey what do you think about abortions?

Say:

You: Girls always say they want a nice guy but they never realy do

this gets them talking for ages

or you could always bring up SEX girls love to talk about sex THEY LOVE IT. This also gives the added bonus of showing your confident and sexualy aware.
 
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Aborotion lol.

Thanks I've read the main site and most of it just talks about first saying "Hi" which I can do fine, then says to just "go from there", and that's what I have trouble with.
 
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Originally posted by Black_Italian
Say:

You: Girls always say they want a nice guy but they never realy do

this gets them talking for ages

or you could always bring up SEX girls love to talk about sex THEY LOVE IT. This also gives the added bonus of showing your confident and sexualy aware.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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alright man this is easy

First to start a good conversation u gotta have
1 Eye contact
2 Open arms
3 Smile

U said how was your day
hey-fine
U-so are you from around here
her- yeah
u- its not everyday i notice somone wearing such great styles, i like the color contrast of your cloths, very exotic
her-hahaha
her- so u know alot about cloths
u- well i keep up to date in the latest fashions

fake it untill u make it
 
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