"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Possibly asexual woman?

PapiChulo

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I am dealing with this peculiar case strictly concerning sexuality. There is this woman

- early 20s, cute
- seems sexually repressed or asexual to some degree
- doesnt look masculine, but I can sense this weird boyish vibe about her
- surrounds herself with women and actually prefers their company
- views and treats guys as friends
- doesnt draw sexual attention to herself (dont even know what her tits look like, or how big they are!)
- has not had a guy to my knowledge ever, no desire to have one either
- is single (doesnt share that status though), but is seeing someone (her girlfriend?)

On one hand, she does not enjoy kino with me, but initiates sometimes, more like brushing up against me and staying there. It think that she just affirms and validates herself in public like that. One on one she would not do it, even though I caught her once checking out my body.

On the other, I saw her interact with her really attractive friend, and it is not directly sexual (e.i. making out), but I can sense that intimate bond between the two, which crosses into more than friends! You can tell they could, if not yet have done so, go muff diving on each other.

This is something that I cant really label as asexual behavior because the weak desire to be close with someone is definitely there, nor lesbian type behavior either, nevertheless my deduction is that she is flexi-sexy or ambi-sexy with her friend, and is predominately into women. (good taste in women I might add)

She is in the closet about her sexuality, because it just doesnt add up, and I literally have doubts about her.

Whats your take on that?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mikeyb

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The girl you're describing sounds homosexual, not asexual...
 

Mantis Toboggan

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If you're trying to hint that she's sexually interested in one of her female friends, then the word you're looking for is homosexual.

If she's asexual, then you're saying that she doesnt give off a sexual vibe to anyone, male or female.
 

PapiChulo

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Yeah, I am trying to figure if this behavior fits the asexual type, as in capable of romantic attachment to either sexes without being horny for them, also hinting at that she can be at least bi or homosexual. That's why she appears asexual to me as a male. This one time she checked me out is the only proof I have she may have some interest in men. In any case it sounds bad. Sexing her would be like sexing a tree.
 

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The girl is into girls sounds like to me. more specifically she is into her friend who i can say with out a doubt are messing around with each other. She is doing tongue dances on that pvssy.

why are you so curious about this though? are you trying to hook up with this girl??

even in that case, forget her if she is not returning any of your advances. analyzing her on SS isn't going to make her magically like men.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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