"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Possibly asexual woman?

PapiChulo

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I am dealing with this peculiar case strictly concerning sexuality. There is this woman

- early 20s, cute
- seems sexually repressed or asexual to some degree
- doesnt look masculine, but I can sense this weird boyish vibe about her
- surrounds herself with women and actually prefers their company
- views and treats guys as friends
- doesnt draw sexual attention to herself (dont even know what her tits look like, or how big they are!)
- has not had a guy to my knowledge ever, no desire to have one either
- is single (doesnt share that status though), but is seeing someone (her girlfriend?)

On one hand, she does not enjoy kino with me, but initiates sometimes, more like brushing up against me and staying there. It think that she just affirms and validates herself in public like that. One on one she would not do it, even though I caught her once checking out my body.

On the other, I saw her interact with her really attractive friend, and it is not directly sexual (e.i. making out), but I can sense that intimate bond between the two, which crosses into more than friends! You can tell they could, if not yet have done so, go muff diving on each other.

This is something that I cant really label as asexual behavior because the weak desire to be close with someone is definitely there, nor lesbian type behavior either, nevertheless my deduction is that she is flexi-sexy or ambi-sexy with her friend, and is predominately into women. (good taste in women I might add)

She is in the closet about her sexuality, because it just doesnt add up, and I literally have doubts about her.

Whats your take on that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mikeyb

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The girl you're describing sounds homosexual, not asexual...
 

Mantis Toboggan

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If you're trying to hint that she's sexually interested in one of her female friends, then the word you're looking for is homosexual.

If she's asexual, then you're saying that she doesnt give off a sexual vibe to anyone, male or female.
 

PapiChulo

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Yeah, I am trying to figure if this behavior fits the asexual type, as in capable of romantic attachment to either sexes without being horny for them, also hinting at that she can be at least bi or homosexual. That's why she appears asexual to me as a male. This one time she checked me out is the only proof I have she may have some interest in men. In any case it sounds bad. Sexing her would be like sexing a tree.
 

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The girl is into girls sounds like to me. more specifically she is into her friend who i can say with out a doubt are messing around with each other. She is doing tongue dances on that pvssy.

why are you so curious about this though? are you trying to hook up with this girl??

even in that case, forget her if she is not returning any of your advances. analyzing her on SS isn't going to make her magically like men.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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