"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Possible to create better relationsips by eliminating text plan?

SkrooU

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I'm about sick of text messages to the point of wanting to cancel my text plan altogether. When I look back at all my failed relationships, I can honestly say that it has always revolved around text message problems.

Examples -
A text is misunderstood
A text is sent to the wrong person, causing confusion and suspicion
At text was not received
A text was ignored
A response to a text took too long
You don't know if someone actually received your text
Someone can save your poorly worded text and use it against you and show people
Someone texts too much just to keep you on a leash
Someone gets upset I don't initiate enough texts.
I don't care about most crap people text me, like a meme or random complaint about traffic
Texting becomes the dominant mode of communication
Texting is too impersonal; I'd rather hear voices.
People start judging the quality of your bond by how you text
I just hate texting. It takes too long to write something. Call and discuss to save time..

It seems texting brings out the neediness and paranoia in people while also making us lazy communicators.

So I wasn't dating back in the days when there was no texting. For those who were, was it any better then? Do you find texting to be better for dating and relationships?

I'm wondering if I could improve my dating and relationships by forcing women to talk on the phone and creating some mystery in the relationship by giving us some time to miss each other and think of things to talk about on our next encounter.

How do you guys think this would go over?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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EyeBRollin

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Don't delete texting, just manage it. Texting has it's uses:

-sending addresses
-sending any sort of info that the person can reference
-sending screenshots
-receiving written confirmation (legal purposes and being able to say you wrote something)

It is not useful for bonding, making conversation, or any of the other bull****. Yes, texting does kill relationships. Just recognize there is a time and a place for texting. I let people know up front I don't **** around via text.
 
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