"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Possible to create better relationsips by eliminating text plan?

SkrooU

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I'm about sick of text messages to the point of wanting to cancel my text plan altogether. When I look back at all my failed relationships, I can honestly say that it has always revolved around text message problems.

Examples -
A text is misunderstood
A text is sent to the wrong person, causing confusion and suspicion
At text was not received
A text was ignored
A response to a text took too long
You don't know if someone actually received your text
Someone can save your poorly worded text and use it against you and show people
Someone texts too much just to keep you on a leash
Someone gets upset I don't initiate enough texts.
I don't care about most crap people text me, like a meme or random complaint about traffic
Texting becomes the dominant mode of communication
Texting is too impersonal; I'd rather hear voices.
People start judging the quality of your bond by how you text
I just hate texting. It takes too long to write something. Call and discuss to save time..

It seems texting brings out the neediness and paranoia in people while also making us lazy communicators.

So I wasn't dating back in the days when there was no texting. For those who were, was it any better then? Do you find texting to be better for dating and relationships?

I'm wondering if I could improve my dating and relationships by forcing women to talk on the phone and creating some mystery in the relationship by giving us some time to miss each other and think of things to talk about on our next encounter.

How do you guys think this would go over?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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EyeBRollin

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Don't delete texting, just manage it. Texting has it's uses:

-sending addresses
-sending any sort of info that the person can reference
-sending screenshots
-receiving written confirmation (legal purposes and being able to say you wrote something)

It is not useful for bonding, making conversation, or any of the other bull****. Yes, texting does kill relationships. Just recognize there is a time and a place for texting. I let people know up front I don't **** around via text.
 
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