"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Possible to create better relationsips by eliminating text plan?

SkrooU

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I'm about sick of text messages to the point of wanting to cancel my text plan altogether. When I look back at all my failed relationships, I can honestly say that it has always revolved around text message problems.

Examples -
A text is misunderstood
A text is sent to the wrong person, causing confusion and suspicion
At text was not received
A text was ignored
A response to a text took too long
You don't know if someone actually received your text
Someone can save your poorly worded text and use it against you and show people
Someone texts too much just to keep you on a leash
Someone gets upset I don't initiate enough texts.
I don't care about most crap people text me, like a meme or random complaint about traffic
Texting becomes the dominant mode of communication
Texting is too impersonal; I'd rather hear voices.
People start judging the quality of your bond by how you text
I just hate texting. It takes too long to write something. Call and discuss to save time..

It seems texting brings out the neediness and paranoia in people while also making us lazy communicators.

So I wasn't dating back in the days when there was no texting. For those who were, was it any better then? Do you find texting to be better for dating and relationships?

I'm wondering if I could improve my dating and relationships by forcing women to talk on the phone and creating some mystery in the relationship by giving us some time to miss each other and think of things to talk about on our next encounter.

How do you guys think this would go over?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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EyeBRollin

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Don't delete texting, just manage it. Texting has it's uses:

-sending addresses
-sending any sort of info that the person can reference
-sending screenshots
-receiving written confirmation (legal purposes and being able to say you wrote something)

It is not useful for bonding, making conversation, or any of the other bull****. Yes, texting does kill relationships. Just recognize there is a time and a place for texting. I let people know up front I don't **** around via text.
 
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