I met Tonya 2 in a half months ago. We lived in different cities and went on our last date 2 weeks ago. Her parents are super religious which really through me off and made me act nicer then usual. Red flags began to pop up though , as I knew the friends she choose and ex were into drugs.(I stay away from this myself because I've had problems in the past) I gave her the benefit of the doubt though and she always claimed she wasn't into that stuff but would constantly make jokes alluding to it...
We got along fantastic on our dates and kept in constant contact through email,skype, phonecalls etc. Our contact was a bit strange though, as at times I would receive incoherent calls and texts and when she lost her temper she would change from being an angel to a complete B%$#. Usually I would just not even answer her calls and if I did and noticed she was acting this way I would end it early. She would then always bring up stories about guys hitting on her or hanging out with ex's which I would brush off and made her attempt to talk about them even more...
Our last date... It was her birthday so we both drove halfway to meet each other... We made out had fun, and went back to her hotel were I had wine set up. She basically all but said we were gonna have sex(throughout the whole week as well) but stops me at the last possible minute. Saying first that she's used to doing this while on something and then just saying it was a joke when I confronted her. I may have beena bit clingy and desperate(paying for lunch,dinner) but I'm sure there's more to this. Throughout the whole thing it seems like she would act like an angel at times and a psychopath at others.
Tonya said she didn't feel enough sparks from the beginning we met, yet still was down my pants. We both left and I got a text from Tonya thanking me for her birthday card and and saying that she knew I would make some girl lucky some day and that she thought we should keep in contact and to call her whenever I wanted. I of course didn't respond and removed any contact from her(facebook,phone etc) I've dated plenty of girls but just couldn't read this. My guy friends said they thought that this was more then just me paying for lunch and dinner and acting nice since it was her birthday and suggested she was just an addict by her she usually dates guys with a different background comment.
At this point I'm just wondering what the %$# happened?and if I made any mistakes. Am I dealing with a BPD? A crazy addict bored that I'm no longer in that lifestyle? If so I'm glad this turned out this way but am I wrong what happened?
We got along fantastic on our dates and kept in constant contact through email,skype, phonecalls etc. Our contact was a bit strange though, as at times I would receive incoherent calls and texts and when she lost her temper she would change from being an angel to a complete B%$#. Usually I would just not even answer her calls and if I did and noticed she was acting this way I would end it early. She would then always bring up stories about guys hitting on her or hanging out with ex's which I would brush off and made her attempt to talk about them even more...
Our last date... It was her birthday so we both drove halfway to meet each other... We made out had fun, and went back to her hotel were I had wine set up. She basically all but said we were gonna have sex(throughout the whole week as well) but stops me at the last possible minute. Saying first that she's used to doing this while on something and then just saying it was a joke when I confronted her. I may have beena bit clingy and desperate(paying for lunch,dinner) but I'm sure there's more to this. Throughout the whole thing it seems like she would act like an angel at times and a psychopath at others.
Tonya said she didn't feel enough sparks from the beginning we met, yet still was down my pants. We both left and I got a text from Tonya thanking me for her birthday card and and saying that she knew I would make some girl lucky some day and that she thought we should keep in contact and to call her whenever I wanted. I of course didn't respond and removed any contact from her(facebook,phone etc) I've dated plenty of girls but just couldn't read this. My guy friends said they thought that this was more then just me paying for lunch and dinner and acting nice since it was her birthday and suggested she was just an addict by her she usually dates guys with a different background comment.
At this point I'm just wondering what the %$# happened?and if I made any mistakes. Am I dealing with a BPD? A crazy addict bored that I'm no longer in that lifestyle? If so I'm glad this turned out this way but am I wrong what happened?
