Possible baby, now big baby momma drama

[mtnbiker]

Ok, so I just recently(12 days ago) got dumped by what I originally thought was a real love. Now less than a week later, I have been informed I may be a babies daddy. I am beyond lost.

 

[mtnbiker]

You get a curve ball and strike out, even though you were sure you got solid contact. (Ex who dumped you) You deal with it. Then you are told about a change up you apparently missed and you are blind sided.(girl from last year) All this while you are trying so hard to advance your life. How do you move on?! What do you do? You are more than ok with the change up and have wanted the change up since you were in your 20's, but not like this, not how this pitcher is treating you, they act and respond like you are nothing now when you know full well you are beyond normal and actually special compared to most

 

[backseatjuan]

You got dumped!

Even if it is your baby you don't want anything to do with it because of mother is trash. It's ok though, you'll make another baby. So I suggest you get lost. Change your number, change your city, close fb.

 

[RedScorpion]

There's a pretty high chance she's messing with you. Regardless, ask for a dna test proving that you are indeed the father. Do not sign paternity papers that say you accept being the father, because a dna test will not counter that then.

 

[Blackmm]

DNA test for the win.

 

[JohnChops]

DNA test for the win.

ha its the only sure way to know. She said you "may" be the father aka shes been wh0ring around and she obviously doesnt know whose it is. Or shes using it as a tactic to get her ego backk

 

[mtnbiker]

Yes, she admitted she slept with another guy the same week as we did(last summer) and he has been the father. Now, she says she thinks it looks like me. I bought an Identigene yesterday and I'm going to her place tomorrow to take the swabs.
This is not the girl who dumped me BTW.

 

[JohnChops]

LOL this is great man, i cant tell if this is a serious thread.

 

[mtnbiker]

Unfortunately it is all too real, haha.

 

[Warrior74]

Leave it bro. No contact. When she initiates contact, tell her you want a DNA test. If it's yours, you make her deal with it. If she wants child support, make her go to court for it. If she dumped you she already doesn't respect you. If a baby can make you jump thru her hoops she owns you. I say this as a man with a child. My ex tries to play games with my daughter. I ignore everything but what I want. Why? because she only respects me when I don't kiss her ass. When I was nice I never got anything I wanted. Listen or otherwise she's just gonna use the baby to jerk your chain repeatedly.

 

[mtnbiker]

Leave it bro. No contact. When she initiates contact, tell her you want a DNA test. If it's yours, you make her deal with it. If she wants child support, make her go to court for it. If she dumped you she already doesn't respect you. If a baby can make you jump thru her hoops she owns you. I say this as a man with a child. My ex tries to play games with my daughter. I ignore everything but what I want. Why? because she only respects me when I don't kiss her ass. When I was nice I never got anything I wanted. Listen or otherwise she's just gonna use the baby to jerk your chain repeatedly.

This is 'not' the ex-girlfriend saying I might be the father. This is a one night stand I had last summer with another girl before I met the recent ex-girlfriend.

 

[Warrior74]

The same rules apply. What's fun is fun and what's done is done. Not a dime until a DNA test. No contact otherwise.

 

[mtnbiker]

The same rules apply. What's fun is fun and what's done is done. Not a dime until a DNA test. No contact otherwise.

She has already asked for me to take a DNA test. She wants to do it tomorrow. She doesn't want a relationship which is cool. I just didn't want a kid this way. I've wanted to have one for a while though, but not from just some random girl.