Possible Advice

[pauljamesrecker]

I’ve liked this girl for 5-6 years now. She has a great personality, very attractive, close with her family like I am, and someone I could see myself marrying. We used to work together but never dated because we both were with others.

After we both went to college, we always kept in touch via e-mail/text with me always doing the contacting. I have always told her how much I think the world of her and how beautiful she is. She’s told me I’m a great guy and someone who reminds her of her father. We had a few meaningful conversations about the people we were dating at the time. However in my mind, I was thinking about how much I really wanted to date her. She’s told me how much she’s liked the things I’ve sent her (birthday cards/money) but I never hear from unless I reach out to her first via e-mail/text message/birthdays-holidays.

As it now stands, she has moved to another city about 1 hour from where I’m at. At this point, what should I do? I don’t want to stop contacting her because I’m afraid I’ll never hear from her again but simultaneously I’m tired of being the one initiating the conversation.

I think I know what I need to do but wanted to ask another opinion. Please let me know when you have time.

 

[Willard]

Sent her money, why? She doesn't sound very interested. Have you made any moves? It sounds like a lost cause, you can always ask her out on a date and try to have sex with her, but an hour away, sounds like a waste of time.

 

[DJFear]

Well this looks like a classic "nice guy, friend zone" situation. From what you are saying it doesnt sound like she sees you as bf material but rather just as a friend. Try something sexual and flirty with her. If she doesnt respond, move on.