Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ziniath

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Porn is part of who I am. I love it, my hard drive is filled with it, and I'm comfortable enough with who I am that I am not ashamed of something natural. All of my girlfriends know that I have porn.

In fact, they would think it was weird if I DIDN'T have porn.

My previous girlfriend and I used to love sitting down together and putting a good porno on, then moving on to making our own porn together.

One of the hottest things that ever eventuated was when she told me to put a lesbian porn on, then bend her over my computer desk and **** her while she watched it.

This girl was a virgin before she met me, and was uncomfortable around the topic of sex: not because she thought it was dirty, but because she was inexperienced and was worried about "getting it wrong".

She knew from day 1 that I liked porn and eventually, through trust, and communication, she was able to open up enough to come to me and say "I want to see a porn".

That **** is awesome.

What are you guys so ashamed of that you can't admit to enjoying the female form in all it's glory?

Sex is fun, everybody loves it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mrRuckus

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Is she gonna do exactly what I want to do when I want to do it?

No? Then she can shut the fvck up. She has no more right to regulate me touching myself than she does telling me what I can eat or where and when I can poop.

What if i think it's wrong for her to scratch an itch? Maybe she should only come to me and i will do her scratching for her.
 

SmoothTalker

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I would not date a prude, and most of the more interesting girls watch it themselves, or at the very least have no problem with it.

In terms of masturbating in general, I don't see how it would be an issue. Just do it when you're not able to see her, and obviously do stuff with her instead when you are together.

Now if you start jerking off rather than ****ing your girlfriend when you have the chance, that can be a problem, but if you're doing that there are probably bigger issues in the relationship.
 

f283000

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anx1ety said:
Some say it's wrong, some say it's not. What is your opinion?
Let me just say this. If you are still addicted to porn after you get a girlfriend there are 2 things wrong with you
1. You need to work on your game so that you are getting more sex or sex on command from your b|otch so that you don't need porn anymore.
2. The mere fact that you finally got a gf so you can get the real deal instead of watching it on tv and you are still addicted to porn says you got some psychological issues you need to work on.
 

Cinamon

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A lot of girls are in to watching porn now. I like watching it with bfs, and have no issues with them jerking off to it in my absence if they need too, just like i wouldnt expect them to have an objection to it. If nothing else, its inspiration.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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