"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ziniath

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Porn is part of who I am. I love it, my hard drive is filled with it, and I'm comfortable enough with who I am that I am not ashamed of something natural. All of my girlfriends know that I have porn.

In fact, they would think it was weird if I DIDN'T have porn.

My previous girlfriend and I used to love sitting down together and putting a good porno on, then moving on to making our own porn together.

One of the hottest things that ever eventuated was when she told me to put a lesbian porn on, then bend her over my computer desk and **** her while she watched it.

This girl was a virgin before she met me, and was uncomfortable around the topic of sex: not because she thought it was dirty, but because she was inexperienced and was worried about "getting it wrong".

She knew from day 1 that I liked porn and eventually, through trust, and communication, she was able to open up enough to come to me and say "I want to see a porn".

That **** is awesome.

What are you guys so ashamed of that you can't admit to enjoying the female form in all it's glory?

Sex is fun, everybody loves it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mrRuckus

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Is she gonna do exactly what I want to do when I want to do it?

No? Then she can shut the fvck up. She has no more right to regulate me touching myself than she does telling me what I can eat or where and when I can poop.

What if i think it's wrong for her to scratch an itch? Maybe she should only come to me and i will do her scratching for her.
 

SmoothTalker

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I would not date a prude, and most of the more interesting girls watch it themselves, or at the very least have no problem with it.

In terms of masturbating in general, I don't see how it would be an issue. Just do it when you're not able to see her, and obviously do stuff with her instead when you are together.

Now if you start jerking off rather than ****ing your girlfriend when you have the chance, that can be a problem, but if you're doing that there are probably bigger issues in the relationship.
 

f283000

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anx1ety said:
Some say it's wrong, some say it's not. What is your opinion?
Let me just say this. If you are still addicted to porn after you get a girlfriend there are 2 things wrong with you
1. You need to work on your game so that you are getting more sex or sex on command from your b|otch so that you don't need porn anymore.
2. The mere fact that you finally got a gf so you can get the real deal instead of watching it on tv and you are still addicted to porn says you got some psychological issues you need to work on.
 

Cinamon

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A lot of girls are in to watching porn now. I like watching it with bfs, and have no issues with them jerking off to it in my absence if they need too, just like i wouldnt expect them to have an objection to it. If nothing else, its inspiration.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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