taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
this reminds me of a line from a Bloodhound Gang song:
"Like Jim Jones I'll take you out with one punch..."
"Like Jim Jones I'll take you out with one punch..."
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It has, and always will. Your are child watching Care Bears on TV, I am the child fighting in the school yard. I exist !Like hitting someone will solve the problem. Children please
Learn from it, but don't beat yourself up for it. That is not being positive or productive.If anything, you punch: Yourself, for failure to vet properly or your inability to be her best sexual option.
A relationship is an agreement between two people--no third party is obligated to honor that arrangement. If your gf is hot & you decide to fight every 'fvcker that tries to steal what's yours (lol)' you'll be fighting A LOT. Getting mad at the girl is pointless--she already cheated, she doesn't exist.
If anything, if I met the guy a gf cheated with I'd buy him a beer for saving me some time & potential financial loss & try to befriend him--because chances are he's a cool guy with a little bit of game and is a lot like you in a lot of ways. As long as he doesn't fall in love with your girl, chances are he'll be a good wingman.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Anything out of your grasp is a troll ? Common reaction from a commoner. Here is a real life example of approaching, mate guarding, perception of threat and violence.Troll, or Virgin, or Woman.
If someone here ****ed my girl, my teenage self would beat the **** out of said male. At 30, I would buy that male a drink and said woman would be discarded from my life forever. She could get murdered the next day and I would not give a single ****. Too busy make money, traveling, and getting hotter babes.Not that many options, really.
1. Dump her
2. Plate her
3. Pimp her out
4. Fight over her
Op is arguing (poorly) for 4, but doesn't seem to understand the stupidity of it. Probably because he hasn't had other smarter guys (father, grandfather, uncles) telling him.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.