taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
this reminds me of a line from a Bloodhound Gang song:
"Like Jim Jones I'll take you out with one punch..."
"Like Jim Jones I'll take you out with one punch..."
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It has, and always will. Your are child watching Care Bears on TV, I am the child fighting in the school yard. I exist !Like hitting someone will solve the problem. Children please
Learn from it, but don't beat yourself up for it. That is not being positive or productive.If anything, you punch: Yourself, for failure to vet properly or your inability to be her best sexual option.
A relationship is an agreement between two people--no third party is obligated to honor that arrangement. If your gf is hot & you decide to fight every 'fvcker that tries to steal what's yours (lol)' you'll be fighting A LOT. Getting mad at the girl is pointless--she already cheated, she doesn't exist.
If anything, if I met the guy a gf cheated with I'd buy him a beer for saving me some time & potential financial loss & try to befriend him--because chances are he's a cool guy with a little bit of game and is a lot like you in a lot of ways. As long as he doesn't fall in love with your girl, chances are he'll be a good wingman.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Anything out of your grasp is a troll ? Common reaction from a commoner. Here is a real life example of approaching, mate guarding, perception of threat and violence.Troll, or Virgin, or Woman.
If someone here ****ed my girl, my teenage self would beat the **** out of said male. At 30, I would buy that male a drink and said woman would be discarded from my life forever. She could get murdered the next day and I would not give a single ****. Too busy make money, traveling, and getting hotter babes.Not that many options, really.
1. Dump her
2. Plate her
3. Pimp her out
4. Fight over her
Op is arguing (poorly) for 4, but doesn't seem to understand the stupidity of it. Probably because he hasn't had other smarter guys (father, grandfather, uncles) telling him.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.