"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Poll : Your woman cheats on you. You punch :
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
A relationship is an agreement between two people--no third party is obligated to honor that arrangement. If your gf is hot & you decide to fight every 'fvcker that tries to steal what's yours (lol)' you'll be fighting A LOT. Getting mad at the girl is pointless--she already cheated, she doesn't exist.
If anything, if I met the guy a gf cheated with I'd buy him a beer for saving me some time & potential financial loss & try to befriend him--because chances are he's a cool guy with a little bit of game and is a lot like you in a lot of ways. As long as he doesn't fall in love with your girl, chances are he'll be a good wingman.
If you feel you have to resort to violence in this scenario, then the situation is already out of your control and it’s a only desperate attempt to get revenge. It’s not a healthy mindset to have.
But in the Patriarchy (aka beta males order), it is the cheating wife that gets all the punishment.
I don't think there is any society or animal order where the male punch himself for "not being her best option" lol, that's why I didn't put a third option to the poll.
Naive I was.
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Needless to say right now better not to punch anyone, then again is that women costing me money and her loyalty was part of the deal?
Were we just in a casual relationship with no investment on my side?
As long as she is not gonna cost me anything then of in future she is free to go, I have such low expectations from women that its hard even for them to fail.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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It's a man's instinct to protect his property, and that includes his woman. So it's a completely natural desire to beat the ever living piss out of the guy who fvcked your woman. However, today's society doesn't cater to treating women like property, so beating the 5hit out of the guy isn't exactly the correct route to go.
just get better girl for yourself, she will probably only care about losing you if you get more successful than her and her new guy, otherwise not
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I should have done the poll differently.
Poll : Your woman cheats on you. You punch :
- yourself. you are not the best option, so her cheating was justified. Befriend the guy and buy him a beer. Go back studying What Women Want(tm), it is your life goal to please women at any stage of their life.
- violence is not a healthy mindset. Close the door and let people have their fun.
- don't punch anyone, it's against the law. Obeing the law is important : it gets you pvssy.
- ignore them and go on with your life. Meet other women. Let them know than one can fvck your wife and get away with it. It will impress them.
- go hug them ! it's not their fault, it's Nature !
- don't punch the guy, he doesn't even know you exists. Well to be honest, there is a possibility that he DOES know you exist, and that he mocks you while he fvcks your wife in your bed. But you should give him the benefit of the doubt. One would not want to risk a miscarriage of justice, all right ?
- no need to react either way. It is useless. Just sit alone and wait death. You were not meant to reproduce anyway.
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A woman is never "yours", it's just your turn.
Once you've been around the block enough you know when it's time to end a RL waaay before a woman has the option to fück around. I'm not saying it's impossible but it's highly unlikely.
This guys just trolling around.
Emotionally driven violence is not masculine. It's femininity expressed with masculinity. Why would you raise the effort to lift your arm to a cheater or her guy? Dump her and move on like a man with options whose time is valuable.
Oh ****, never heard that but it's ****ing golden!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Which is if I see them out, I would walk by and say "hi" to both, go to the bar and buy him a drink...have the bar maid send it over and thank him for saving me the trouble that she would have surely caused me in the future and only more wasted time.
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This is the truth!!! I would venture to say 80-90 percent of females cheat and then have the ability to make their boyfriend or husband blame themselves for it! I was on both ends of the spectrum and you can't blame the guy. Most girls will lie thru their teeth to their husbands and the other guy.
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If it's truly your fault you can blame yourself. But you shouldn't beat yourself up over someone else's decision.
No point in punching anybody, it's not going to change anything.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.