"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Poll on how you use the site

When you first access the site, do you:

  • I read the site using the "New Posts" button or drop down menu?

    Votes: 6 31.6%

  • I read the site content by Sub-Forum Name? e.g. Don Juan, Anything Else, etc?

    Votes: 13 68.4%
  • Total voters
    19
Pierce Manhammer

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I'm interested in learning more about how users access the content on the site.

When I come to the site, I do it in this order:
1. Check notifications - the little bell in the top nav bar.
2. Then I click the New Posts or Whats New button or drop-down menu - which shows me new content across the site.

I do not read the site by sub-forum, so I'm curious how do you do it? If the poll doesn't cover how you access fresh content, please vote for the closest option and post a message here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SW15

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I check my notifications on the posts where I have already participated.

Then, I navigate through the subforums like Don Juan, Mature Man, etc.

I will also review my private messages too.
 
Pierce Manhammer

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Thanks for the replies this far. It’s interesting to see how people use interfaces. One thing that I’ve noted is that I often the way I use technology is very different than most users…

Hopefully more people will reply.
 
The Duke

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SW15 said:
I check my notifications on the posts where I have already participated.

Then, I navigate through the subforums like Don Juan, Mature Man, etc.

I will also review my private messages too.
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Same way
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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