That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SKout is where the hoodrats go who get no love, but POF isn't any different well in my area anyway. I remember a couple years ago I let Naughty Ninja tweak my profile and after one hour of sending messages he ran out of chicks because they were so uglyZarky said:You want to see sites that are a full step down from POF?
Try datehookup.com, and try the following phone apps: Skout & Blendr. They make POF look like the VIP section of a Hollywood club after the Oscars.
^^^This is why I lul at guys who say "I met my girl of POF and we got married..." or some crap. POF chicks are just good for sucking and ****ingsoulforge said:evry girl i ever met on pof... turned out to be damaged. issues & major fu@king slut
-----------------Solomon said:^^This is why a lot of guys are frustrated with online dating. Even if your profile is written eloquently, even if your game is top notch none of this matters if the girl doesn't find you attractive or you're not good looking.
I always lol at guys on here who claim to be good looking but don't get any response on POF and act upset. The truth is if you're as good looking as you think you are women will hit you up first online!
Here are some pics someof my buddies who do super good on POF and Ok
WOW
Attaboy
Nice POF slut he banged
I got another buddy who is jacked as shyt and he only games rich old white ladies and gets money
When I read these guys profile it's less than a paragraph but their inbox are filled with women who are DTF,
Not bitter just the reality brahs.
soulforge said:evry girl i ever met on pof... turned out to be damaged. issues & major fu@king slut
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bwahaha REP!, on day 14-15? & red flags are a blazin! Hit it on the second date, both trashed out of our skillz, no worries I wore a jimmy hat.Big Nuts said:yup...perfect combination to pump and dump...just keep ur distance and don't become emotionally invested...their red flags will show inside of 7-14 days.....
Whoever wrote that certainly had a lot of time on his hands. Lol.noobolgy said:I was told to post this on my about me section, by some individuals here on ss.
Since the the only thing women ever hear from men is a pile of horse sh*t to get into your pants, I'm going to use my invaluable time to send some truth your way. If you are not interested in truth then run along(no seriously run along).
Like most subjects that women are either confused or mislead about, women don't even have a clue of what men value in a woman(not talking little boys but grown men). You may assume you do, but then you end up looking like Ann Coulter and we all know how bright she is (sarcasm). Let's start with what makes a good woman. Women love to complain about "All the good men are taken," or "There's no real men left". This is nonsense. There's plenty of great single guys. What is lacking is women worth more than a one night stand or a two week fling. Men who get labeled as "Players" or "Womanizers" are just the guys who are good at getting women, give you a chance, and quickly discover you aren't worth our time and discard you quickly as possible. Unlike most women, men who are smart, we value our time. That's how we get stuff done. That's why there's a mall for you to shop in, and a car for you to drive there in. So when we realize you are wasting our time, we systematically remove you like a band aid, and keep searching for a woman worth our time. So, what kind of woman is worth a long term commitment? It's a short simple list, and it doesn't include make up, high heels, fake hair, meaningless tattoos and piercings, or any of the other things you think are getting our attention.
1. You should have a genuine motherly, nurturing quality. You should get fulfilling happiness from cooking your man food, keeping the house in order, and supporting your guy in all his important endeavors.
2. You need to be willing to fulfill his sexual desires. Because if you don't, someone else will.
3. Stop talking so much. If you want to talk, talk to your girl friends. 80.3% of what you want to talk about is completely uninteresting to your man(that's why he rather be with his boys on Saturday night then you). Men like talking to other men, because we like to share our world changing ideas and insights with someone capable of understanding and appreciating them. Don't bore us with your trite stories about the b^tch at work who hates you, the new pair of shoes you bought that don't quite match your hair clip, or which Jersey Shore member slept with that Jersey Shore member, what so-so latest status update on Facebook or twitter is, and we wont bore you with things that are actually relevant to furthering humanity.
On a side note I've noticed that women have the same boring generic profile. What's with the "Live, Love, Laugh" crap? what is that what's "hot" right now? the new meme for 2013? I swear if I see another headline that says "Live, Love, Laugh" or a girl with a "Live, Love, laugh" tattoo on her back I'm gonna shoot myself. So you think your original cause your a "Hipster", "Independent" or like going to uptown drink with your girlfriends? newsflash just because you're "Pseudo-hipster" doesn't make you original, and just because you can finally pay your student loans without Daddy's help doesn't make you independent. If you wanted to go to a trip to New York right now for the weekend, hit up Central Park, hit up Craft restaurant for a bite and 10oak could you? If not then your not Independent as you think. And there is nothing grandiose about going out to have a drink on Saturday night. Social people go out to have drink this isn't a hobby and if it is then you probably have an alcohol problem. The worst however isn't the vanilla profiles but some of the requirements men have to meet to even message you and not only that but that we have to "Impress you, or send you a funny message". Another one of my favorites is when girls say "I have dry sense of humor" or "I'm sarcastic" then you read their page and their is nothing funny at all, I mean lets just be real having a "dry sense of humor" and being "sarcastic" is just another code word for being a b^tch. Thanks but no thanks, nothing worse then a girl who thinks she is funny but she's not. Also what's up with the pictures of you and a guy? I mean if it's a picture of you and a group of friends hanging out having fun, cool. But the pictures of you and just a guy? What the f*ck is that? If it's not your dad or brother WTF you got a picture of you and another guy for? are we suppose to be impressed? is it a guy your banging currently? are we suppose to compare ourselves to him and see if we measure up looks-wise? seriously if you have a picture of just you and another guy I'm gonna assume that your banging him or at one time did.
Instead of listing what you are looking for, why don't you list as references the phone numbers or emails of all of your ex-boyfriends. Then we could cut to the chase and find out why you are really single and on here looking to repeat the past. The saying that goes, "For every woman there's a man somewhere who is tired of her sh!t" is never far from the truth. I recently came across an ex's profile on here, and it was the biggest load of BS I ever read. There's no mention of her real personality. The personality her family cant even tolerate. If any of her ex boyfriends were contacted as a reference, they would all say the same thing. "RUN!. Get out now while you can." I know because I have spoken to them. How many women on here are lying on their profile like she is?
I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. If I were to let the new guy talk to my last boyfriend, what kind of recommendation would he give me. If he would talk highly of you then woman up and list him as a reference. If he is sick of your sh!t, then how long until I am sick of it too? I will happily exchange references with any woman. What you are going to hear from my ex's is "He was the coolest guy I ever dated. He was the best in bed, ever. He's funny, kind. He will rescue you at 3 am from your flat tire. But if you get weird and start playing stupid games, he will end it with you immediately. He doesn't tolerate any bullsh!t at all. I wish I would have acted more mature when we were together, and I might still be with him now. He will treat you the way you wanna be treated. If you wanna be treated like a queen he will treat you like a queen. If you wanna be treated like a little kid he will treat you like a little kid."
Live, love, laugh
What do we think about this?
Some I pm'd a member from here, with a lot of rep points and they said to post this.Zarky said:^^^^^ yikes, your online dating profile is not the place to vent.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.