"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PeasantPlayer

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Talked up some girl on POF, had a good conversation. Ended up giving her my number, but telling her I would be busy and couldn't talk tonight, which was true. She texts me giving me her number and what not. I say cool, I will hit you up tommorow. This morning wake up send her a text. No response. Thing is....I don't really care, but want some advice on how I should of and how I should go about this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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One more attempt in a few days, either by text or phone call. No reply? Drop it. If you do talk to her don't mention the first failed attempt.
 

Yewki

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Give her more time, she might be playing a game... or just be busy. Either way I would not text her again until she responds (yes that might mean never texting her again).

But what did you text her? Hopefully not something boring, generic, or uninteresting (i.e. "hey, good morning")
 

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PeasantPlayer said:
Ended up giving her my number
This is your problem.

You ended up giving her your number. When you give your number to a girl, you become just an ordinary guy to her. She will treat you as an ordinary guy as well. That's why she isn't putting in much of an effort in getting back to you.

Always get the girl's number first, don't just give yours away. When you give your number away, you have no idea if the girl is really interested. You throw the ball in her court and it's up to her if she will text.

Girls that have some interest will always give you their number. Make sure that you always get their number first. Just don't randomly give yours away hoping she'll text you the next day. She's texting the guys that she has high interest first, before she gets to you.

When you're using online dating you have a chance to get a bunch of numbers. So, don't be concerned about just one flake.

And that's Rascal's number tip of the day
 

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rascal99v said:
This is your problem.

You ended up giving her your number. When you give your number to a girl, you become just an ordinary guy to her. She will treat you as an ordinary guy as well. That's why she isn't putting in much of an effort in getting back to you.

Always get the girl's number first, don't just give yours away. When you give your number away, you have no idea if the girl is really interested. You throw the ball in her court and it's up to her if she will text.

Girls that have some interest will always give you their number. Make sure that you always get their number first. Just don't randomly give yours away hoping she'll text you the next day. She's texting the guys that she has high interest first, before she gets to you.

And that's Rascal's number tip of the day
Good tip.
I remember I found this site by googling whether giving my number out was a good idea (I used to give mine out).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was in a rush was getting picked up for poker which I enjoy more then most women:) I did text her good morning lmao. Its funny because I know what I do wrong and keep doing it. Oh well on to the nexttttttt
 

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Also keep in mind that there are a lot of flakes in internet dating. I can not tell you the number of times that has happened to me....so I normally just ignore and move on to the next. I no longer waste my time on women who do not respond...I do not send them a second text. Good luck.. Abe
 

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Give her time but also keep in mind it's all very flaky
 
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