Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Glad I don't have this problem yet.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Come on bro, 18-21 are the hottest girls you will find. After 25 most go downhill fairly fast. Any women in late 20s or 30s, you better have money for them or they will tell you to go to hell.guru1000 said:I never understood this fascination with girls in the 18-21 range. There are plenty of hot, young-looking women in their mid-late twenties, even early thirties.
Matter of fact, I stay away from girls younger than 24 yo. They are babies; total turn-off for me as they can't stimulate my mind one bit.
no sh@t bout that man. went out last night n saw these chicks n they were 28 n they fu@kin looked 48. they were lookin to get fu@ked but i wasnt gonna do their old nasty lookin @sses. lots of chicks late 20's look old as f@ck.Trump said:Come on bro, 18-21 are the hottest girls you will find. After 25 most go downhill fairly fast.
Never put looks on a pedestal. Treat and view hot women as you would your step-sister. Hb8s and 9s are dime a dozen at any age. A girl better bring more to the table than just looks if she wants to keep my attention.Trump said:Come on bro, 18-21 are the hottest girls you will find. After 25 most go downhill fairly fast. Any women in late 20s or 30s, you better have money for them or they will tell you to go to hell.
Personally I don't want women to stimulate my mind, I want them to have sex with or bring babies, but to each to their own. :rock:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Agreed 110%.guru1000 said:Never put looks on a pedestal. Treat and view hot women as you would your step-sister. Hb8s and 9s are dime a dozen at any age. A girl better bring more to the table than just looks if she wants to keep my attention.
I can't speak for other parts of the country but hot girls in NYC in their mid- late 20s "look" just as hot if not hotter than women in the 18-21 range. Or maybe it could just be my taste. I pursue only the cream of the crop, so maybe these women on the higher echelon of the looks scale take better care of themselves than their less attractive counterparts.
I've posted pics of my plates on this site before. Most are between 27-29. I doubt anyone here would say that any 18-21 yo they know would be comparable.
Bible_Belt said:Here's my new profile:
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=98244256
I am hoping that saying #1 no dinner dates and #2 must not be too fat for a motorcycle will keep away the fat chicks.
Note that the profile also says I'm not spending any money on her, and our relationship will go straight to the physical level. And we can have sex on either the first date or the second, because I'm just that nice of a guy.
Experimenting with response rates using a friends pics?Bible_Belt said:The pic isn't of me. It's a buddy of mine. I added one more pic I had of him.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thanks for the tip.Obsidian said:You can see who said "Yes" to you on Meet Me by copying the girl's username from the email notification, and then pasting that into the User Search feature.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That is not a problem with me. You can set up different accounts / emails, etc... and simply start a new account up with a lower age range. I just put up an account claiming I was born in 1990.Bible_Belt said:I keep getting blocked from sending messages on pof. I get the "this user only accepts messages from certain users."
I think my biggest problem is the +/- 14 year age rule. I set my age to 36, which was stupid, because it won't let me message anyone 18-21. And after your profile has been up for two weeks, they won't let you change your age.
If you look at profiles on Adultfriendfinder, or other hook-up sites, and you go on POF, what I found interested is allot of women are members on both of these sites.Bible_Belt said:The pof creator has sent out messages saying he doesn't want guys using his site to try and find sex. LOL what a joke. That's the reason every guy is on there.
Again, you know what type of profile will get filtered out. I feel I'm about 40 years old, but could pass for 25 years old or even yonger (people have confused me sometimes for still being a teenager in rare cases), I'm mixed but can pass as white (i.e. if interested in Asian or ethnic chicks). I'm 5'11 but could claim I'm 6'2. Who cares, I know I can message and look at women and can make up anything I want about myself. I haven't put up a pic yet on the profile but put up some crap about how established I am, etc... and looking for a woman that likes travelling to sound rich (although all of that if false - but who cares, I'm entitled to express fantasy about myself on a profile).Bible_belt said:The site also screws over casual weed smokers, with the single question of 'yes I use drugs or no I don't." I think I put "sometimes" and I am getting blocked by women who set their mail to "no drug users." What a horrible joke it is to put weed and meth in the same category.
For my next profile, I am going to be 32 and never use "drugs." I think I may also have to put that I am looking for a serious relationship, too, just to keep from getting blocked by that criteria as well.
If anyone has input on getting around the pof blocks, I would be happy to hear it.
Why would you go on a dating site using pictures of your friend? What's the point of that?Bible_Belt said:The pic isn't of me. It's a buddy of mine. I added one more pic I had of him.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.