I was wondering if any else is on POF and gets those messsages about meetups and has ever been to one. I get those messages about several meetups at bars every week. I have never went to one. I imagine it's mostly a motley crew consisting of older regulars on pof, a lot of dudes and the token hot girl who thinks she's the top princess. On the other hand it would be away to meet several of the women on there and maybe get a pull.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
I went to one, was working as part of the entertainment, so let me tell you what it is. The person doing the invite usually is marketing their business online. Basically they are either working for part of the door, since they bring in a lot of business from pof, meetup.com, etc. They might also be the "talent agent" in charge of the cover band, so they sell that to the bar owner as part of the package. They are affiliated with the local bars and promote the events.
With that being said, not all of the people inside the bar will be from PoF or Meet Up, since they are local bars that are pretty popular, but a good 80% will. Look at the people who RSVP, if the ratio is a good 50/50 of women and men, it usually turns out that way at the event, as a lot of women take their friend. Met several who were taken but took their single friend to get her to meet somone new. Avg age was late 30's to mid 40's, though.
With that being said, not all of the people inside the bar will be from PoF or Meet Up, since they are local bars that are pretty popular, but a good 80% will. Look at the people who RSVP, if the ratio is a good 50/50 of women and men, it usually turns out that way at the event, as a lot of women take their friend. Met several who were taken but took their single friend to get her to meet somone new. Avg age was late 30's to mid 40's, though.
This great info. I never thought of it, but it makes total sense that it's marketing. What did you think of the typical crowd though. It seems kind of old like I thought. Was it like shooting fish in a barrel or was it more like nasty and cheesy and not really good for PU?Gangster Of Love said:I went to one, was working as part of the entertainment, so let me tell you what it is. The person doing the invite usually is marketing their business online. Basically they are either working for part of the door, since they bring in a lot of business from pof, meetup.com, etc. They might also be the "talent agent" in charge of the cover band, so they sell that to the bar owner as part of the package. They are affiliated with the local bars and promote the events.
With that being said, not all of the people inside the bar will be from PoF or Meet Up, since they are local bars that are pretty popular, but a good 80% will. Look at the people who RSVP, if the ratio is a good 50/50 of women and men, it usually turns out that way at the event, as a lot of women take their friend. Met several who were taken but took their single friend to get her to meet somone new. Avg age was late 30's to mid 40's, though.
I went to a meetup.com event and it sucked. On POF I get on there once a week, search for any new girls email them that I think they are cute and would like to meet up for drinks. I send like 5-6 emails a week and avg 1-2 dates from it. It can't hurt, you can always go to these events with a buddy and act like you just happen to be at the bar..
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
The crowd was older than you would find at a night club, and less people, so there was less to choose from.ketostix said:This great info. I never thought of it, but it makes total sense that it's marketing. What did you think of the typical crowd though. It seems kind of old like I thought. Was it like shooting fish in a barrel or was it more like nasty and cheesy and not really good for PU?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.