D.J. King Allister
Don Juan
"Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but give me your number, I'll call you maybe
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
D.J. King Allister said:"Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but give me your number, I'll call you maybe"
Mauser96 said:I am 45, sig older than you so don't know what works in your age group. But straightforward, and to the point has brought me luck
ie) "Hi there, Your profile is really interesting and made me want to know more.I'd like to chat with with you and get to know you better"
That's it. They bite or they don't. After they respond, things get a little more complicated and you have to put a little more thought into it, but at the start?? She is going by your pic and profile and is interested or neot. I used to wrote long agonizing intros....waste of time.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
even if she was interested, i don't think she would respond because she wouldn't want you to think that she was easy. even if she is easy.D.J. King Allister said:"Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but give me your number, I'll call you maybe"
Its cool man.-Gripz- said:ps. Didn't mean to jack your thread
They're never into you unless you are way out of their league. And in that case you wouldn't even be messaging them.-Gripz- said:Try this one: "Hey, I need your advice. Tell me if I'm good looking or not, I always get the "cute" respone. The fate of my ego lies with you!"
Been using this for about 20 minutes and I've just gotten a response. Don't know how well this will work in the long run yet.
UPDATE!! Failed on a number grab her is how the convo went:
Girl: if you add more pictures you will get a better response.
Me:haha I guess I'll take that as a no.
Girl:you are attractive, but only having one picture will make anyones decision hard becuase people cna look different in other pictures you know?
Me:Yeah, I get what you mean. How about I get your number and text you a pic. Nothing dirty trust me.
Girl:haha i would i just dont talk to people from (insert location), nothing against you, just way too far, plus my exlives there.... sorry:/
I don't think she was into me from the start. Ah well you win some you lose some! :box:
ps. Didn't mean to jack your thread
lol ok i copy pasted this and got a reply. also added something about school. she said..Mauser96 said:ie) "Hi there, Your profile is really interesting and made me want to know more.I'd like to chat with with you and get to know you better"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Respectfully disagreeTillTheEndOfTime said:They're never into you unless you are way out of their league. And in that case you wouldn't even be messaging them.
I respectfully disagree your disagreement.incognito42 said:Respectfully disagree
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TillTheEndOfTime said:I respectfully disagree your disagreement.
The only girls who ever initiated with me online were 1's (physical deformity) 3's & 4's. I'm somewhere between a 6-7. No thanks. Way out of your league honey.
Any girl who was a 6 or up was flake-master-flex and the funky bunch. I had to jump through hoops to keep their interest and then I just said the hell with them and moved on. I'm a single, young, attractive and a proven professional. If I'm not good enough for a 6 online, then imagine who is in their own head. That's what I mean that they're only into guys way out of their league. Otherwise, girls would be in relationships left, right and center and wouldn't have profiles on POF for 3+ years. You're telling me that not ONE guy in 3 years was good enough? Don't buy it.
I ditched the online dating BS and I hunt for girls in my own league (at least 6's without being all done up) now offline. Ever since then, I have a lot more respect for myself and it shows in many ways.
What do you mean "real women"?Stryker said:You're 20 years old. Get the hell off POF and go meet some real women.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Wow, did you try it all of one time? LOL. Never ask for their numbers immediately. Never ask for their numbers at all.D.J. King Allister said:No response. Oh well, have to come up with a new one then.
AmenNaughty Ninja said:
You can get replies, phone numbers, meets and lays from chicks who you would think you wouldn't due to the mass cluelessness of how dudes go about online dating. You just have to simply realize these chicks and it doesn't matter if Incog, Meast, I or God knows who else gets a number, meet, and or lay off of them....They will still be online (most are always online due to practically all of them using the POF mobile app) and they'll still be trolling for more d1ck. They are 'technically' looking for a relationship. But don't for one second think these POF chicks are staying "inactive" on there in the meantime. They're sampling d1cks like Valentines candy.
You worry too much about what these chicks think. I don't. Incog and Meast don't. They ignore the nonsense. Play along with it, and don't let anyone or anything affect them in regards to getting what they want by playing it cool and moving foward regardless. That's how you play.