You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
So interesting tip if you want it. My best bro & I traded places. He was man***** while I was in 4yr AFC relationship. Now I'm the man ***** and he's the AFC.Cabal said:Thanks. She actually approached me (yet no one I have ever messaged has ever responded) out of the blue, so I guess that's a good sign of interest. She also gave up her number pretty quick.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree with everything you said EXCEPT that the single mom's are the easiest to get. it's just the opposite when i was on there. the single moms have the WORST and most REDICULOUS standards of ALL the women on dating sites. for whatever reason they think they can command the cream of the crop guy and deserve nothing less "just because they have a kid, life has dealt them a bad hand, their ex is in jail now and they arent getting any child support. however you MUST have a six figure job, modeled at one point in your life, be ready to get married right away, blah blah blah". if you want less headaches then pass on by the single moms and stick with the gals that know how to use birth control or are smart enough and responsible to sleep with guys that know what theyre doing in the sack.bradd80 said:I disagree. Never do dinner on a first date with a pof girl you've never met in real life. (1) this can get expensive, and (2) a simple coffee date or get together for drinks on a patio or at a nice establishment should be more than enough to let your stellar personality win her over without the need for too much money being spent. Pof is like that, you may hit it off with dozens of girls during the initial conversation and getting-to-know-each-other phase but when the time comes to meet up, even if your pics are spitting images of you she will more often than not conclude that the "spark isn't there" or you may conclude that this girl isn't as hot/marginally passable as you had first thought.
If she's not into coffee dates or something simple for a first meeting, this may be a red flag that she will be much more work than necessary - and that's if you ever end up dating/f*cking her at all. Of all the hotties I banged off pof (8 total, 4 of which I dated), we all started off with a simple coffee date.
If you want to date the really hot ones on pof, go after the moms. They're much easier to bang than the single HB9's, and they don't require nearly as much of your time and attention thereby allowing you to try to f*ck other hotties. Just don't get too involved, lest you end up taking care of someone else's kids.
If you're like me and enjoy trying to bang the really hot HB9.5's on pof who are single, your work is really cut out for you. You'd have to be really good looking with a great profile and would have to do something that really makes you stick out (in a good way) from all the other seemingly great guys who msg these types of women. It's important to note that male pof profiles are like resumes.. the slightest wrong statement will make certain women lose total interest in you.