"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

POF Chatting

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,039
Reaction score
504
Just curious what you guys talk about when you start chatting with a girl on sites like POF.

What I normally do is try to keep things interesting talking about common interests, but sometimes I get these girls that give me these one liner replies that really do not give me much to work with. Not to mention that ones that list an interest and know nothing about their supposed "interest".

Interested in your strategies to keep the chat engaging.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Vantagepoint34

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2011
Messages
889
Reaction score
76
Location
Land of slow.
SgtSplacker said:
Just curious what you guys talk about when you start chatting with a girl on sites like POF.

What I normally do is try to keep things interesting talking about common interests, but sometimes I get these girls that give me these one liner replies that really do not give me much to work with. Not to mention that ones that list an interest and know nothing about their supposed "interest".

Interested in your strategies to keep the chat engaging.
It's good to be well rounded in many subjects. Look to ways you can get educated on culture. Or just go for a visit to NY when it is unfrozen.
 

VikingKing

Banned
Joined
May 17, 2013
Messages
2,148
Reaction score
89
Location
America is best
It can be rough. I mean you really have nothing to go on, no body language, you don't know them. Pof hasn't been very good for me. I think online dating is kind of nonsense.
 

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,039
Reaction score
504
Online dating is totally BS, I agree. But it's a form of pussie farming I can do while im home or working.
 

trent_afc

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 15, 2013
Messages
78
Reaction score
4
SgtSplacker said:
Not to mention that ones that list an interest and know nothing about their supposed "interest"
This is a great lead, in both online and IRL conversations. Depending on the topic, I usually ask something along the lines of "X seems interesting to me, [specific but open-ended question about X]?" Throw in some humor for good measure.

Example: So you graduated with a psychology degree, what made you want to pursue that? Usually I try to avoid psych grads since they're seemingly the ones that need therapy the most ;)

I'd avoid trying to outsmart someone on their own turf, usually they can detect a fraud a mile away. Better to be curious/humble and ask questions

Besides, you shouldn't be messaging back and forth more than a handful of times before the number close, save the chatting for the date
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

GS750

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 28, 2013
Messages
1,561
Reaction score
187
Yeah just B.S. 3-4 messages and request the number. Most girls, once you've exchanged a few messages, are fine with giving the number to you. And trent makes a good point...save the chatting for the date. I've missed out with a few girls because I spent too much time on the phone with them and they lost interest. Lesson learned. Have a quick convo (like 15 min max) then make an excuse as to why you have to run and set up the date.
 

VikingKing

Banned
Joined
May 17, 2013
Messages
2,148
Reaction score
89
Location
America is best
I usually have fat 3's initiate conversations with me, for example this one about 20 mins ago.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=50613297

Usually I ignore, she is crazy what is she thinking? I'm way above her in the looks department.


but I still replied, she said "Hi" I said "hey whats up" her, "nothing much, you?"

I said "you like to party" She said, "yes, you?" I said "you want to get ****ed up tonight?"

I just want to go get drunk, and she has a car, and probably a job. If I can go get real drunk for free, and a blow job fvck it.

Oh btw she said, "I've been out for the last 3 days, maybe this weekend?" I said "ok, hmu then"

But only if she buys all the drinks.
 

VikingKing

Banned
Joined
May 17, 2013
Messages
2,148
Reaction score
89
Location
America is best
SgtSplacker said:
Online dating is totally BS, I agree. But it's a form of pussie farming I can do while im home or working.
Yeah. It can be helpful, but it depends on how much work your willing to put in, and what are you going to get out of it, and what are you willing to settle for.
 

VladPatton

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2012
Messages
3,246
Reaction score
232
Location
NYC
Message em:

My cὀck + your puṣṣy = a good time!
 

j0504s

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 29, 2012
Messages
425
Reaction score
22
Location
ConcernedLauries Bed w/ olivia...NY/SoFlo
I personally never have and prob never will use online dating...

a suggestion I have given ppl before is:

Females usualy post their "horoscope sign"

lets say its a "Cancer" and you are a "Taurus"

Msg her something such as,

I saw your profile and I thought i had thought i found the rarest of breeds; a gem on POF. I got very excited till I noticed your sign is "Cancer" you people just can't handle the almighty "Taurus"

just some BS like that, online dating is a crap shoot imo...it gives women so much control (just my opinion)....Be a man, COLD APPROACH!

Keep Spinning,

J0504S
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Top