PMS

[Loki.7]

I'm starting to notice a pattern in my new girlfriend.

Coming up to the time of the month I start noticing behavioural changes. Nothing too crazy, just becomes withdraw, a little down e.t.c.

Previous girlfriends have mostly been uneffected.

I don't know very little about the cycle and it's effects. Never really had to deal with it.

Looking for someone to explain it to me and how to deal with a PMS girlfriend.

Mainly looking to understand the phases of the typical PMS cycle through behaviour rather than a physical process.

 

[Stuffnu]

it was going to be called MCD or Mad Cow Disease but the term was already taken.

Seriously speaking PMS can vary in severity from girl to girl.
Cramping, headaches, hormonal changes, etc. can cause a great deal of misery. Behavior is tied to the physical.

The solution? Stay away or offer comfort.

 

[Loki.7]

I was looking more along the lines of a timetable. Just to work out what's coming and when.

I had a few problems with her around the time the last one hit. 21 days ago is when her mood started to change and she started acting up in the morning (no change in behaviour before this) and she came on later in the day. She went weird for four days, hormonal changes effecting her I'm guessing.

Today she was complaining her boobs were aching and I sense she's started to withdraw. Similar to last time, so wondering if it's going to hit soon.

It's a newish relationship. So just trying to understand her.

Not a red flag (pun intended), I don't mind hormonal mood swings as long as it's delbt with like an adult.

 

[Stuffnu]

Again not all girls are the same. If her cycle is regular and not erratic, it won’t take you too long to figure out. One on my ex’s was a guaranteed “She Devil” between 24 and 28 days. I always found time to be somewhere else.
All you can do is be supportive and not argumentative.

Sore boobs is definitely an indicator of a pending river turning red.

 

[lost_blackbird]

In a world where we constantly hear women bleating about all the things they deserve.
PMT/S is definitely one of them. Enjoy ladies, that's just the built up evil clearing out of you.
You've earned it.

 

[RickPound]

Matters if she’s on birth control or not. No Bc means full hormone effect.

 

[bat soup]

I'm starting to notice a pattern in my new girlfriend.

Coming up to the time of the month I start noticing behavioural changes. Nothing too crazy, just becomes withdraw, a little down e.t.c.

Previous girlfriends have mostly been uneffected.

I don't know very little about the cycle and it's effects. Never really had to deal with it.

Looking for someone to explain it to me and how to deal with a PMS girlfriend.

Mainly looking to understand the phases of the typical PMS cycle through behaviour rather than a physical process.

This is why women shouldn't be allowed to work as judges. Image that you were in the dock at her time of the month.

 

[dude99]

I'm starting to notice a pattern in my new girlfriend.

Coming up to the time of the month I start noticing behavioural changes. Nothing too crazy, just becomes withdraw, a little down e.t.c.

Previous girlfriends have mostly been uneffected.

I don't know very little about the cycle and it's effects. Never really had to deal with it.

Looking for someone to explain it to me and how to deal with a PMS girlfriend.

Mainly looking to understand the phases of the typical PMS cycle through behaviour rather than a physical process.

I had an ex who used PMS as an excuse to become disrespectful biatchy and pick fights over the stupidest things. Her behaviour would become deplorable during the PMS time. It was pretty easy to fix though.

She got dumped.

 

[metalwater]

if she becomes bitchy during and around menstruation, it's annoying but not a problem. just be nice and put on a Teflon skin around your emotions. if you get into a long time relationship with her, have her investigate meds from her doc to smooth it out. Basically, make sure she is ok and then go do something else during that time. if she has never had a baby, the first baby will usually smooth it out some.

fourteen days after the first day of bleeding, if she gets bitchy then and around THAT time, then you have a problem. come back and ask questions if that happens.

 

[BriBri]

They shouldnt be allowed in a lot of things.

Amen to that! I'm thinking law enforcement, military, business, and even teaching (there certainly needs to be more real male teachers, especially at the elementary school level).

 

[Jor-El]

Welcome to dating! Ha. try lighten the mood by adding an L to the end of PMS

 

[Dash Riprock]

I'm starting to notice a pattern in my new girlfriend.

Coming up to the time of the month I start noticing behavioural changes. Nothing too crazy, just becomes withdraw, a little down e.t.c.

Previous girlfriends have mostly been uneffected.

I don't know very little about the cycle and it's effects. Never really had to deal with it.

Looking for someone to explain it to me and how to deal with a PMS girlfriend.

Mainly looking to understand the phases of the typical PMS cycle through behaviour rather than a physical process.

My 9 year ex gf had PMS exactly as you're describing. About a week before her period she'd get very withdrawn, silent, moody, sometimes just mean. She was taking supplements for it when I met her so she knew she had a problem. It sucked, basically 25% of the time we were together she was PMS'ing.

I would just do my own thing during that time and leave her be. If she crossed the line I would calmly say something but starting a fight would be lose-lose.There is literally nothing you can do.

You just need to decide if the 75% of the time she's not having PMS is worth it.

Good luck.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Are you guys sure it's PMS and not BPD? I know most girls blame their mood swings on "pms" but I've noticed even when it isn't that time of the month they displayed the same crazy mood swing behaviour.

Bi polar disorder is really common among women these days.

 

[Zimbabwe]

BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. Not bi-polar disorder.

I was under the impression they were the same, but I suppose i should say yeah these women have BPD since a 2003 study found that women's BPD symptoms were predicted by changes in estrogen levels throughout their menstrual cycles, an effect that remained significant when the results were controlled for a general increase in negative affect.

 

[dude99]

BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. Not bi-polar disorder.

Both are cluster b type personality.

Any cluster b = automatic next.

 

[EyeBRollin]

PMS is just low impulse women finding an excuse to be a bvtch.

 

[Loki.7]

I'm actually away this week. So I was on video call earlier.

She was in he PJ's knitting a blanket, she was kinda grumpy, and acting rebellious in a really funny way. It's obvious she's pms'ing really hard right now.

I knew it was coming (unlike the previous one that caught me off guard).

I'm actually really amused by it. I was ****ing adorable, I laughed so many times.

Yeah so it's been a game changer knowing what to expect and when.

 

[dude99]

Can we have a quick minutes silence for me who has endured 2 days of coincidentally the worst PMS I’ve endured.

Each morning she has wanted to break up over things like a vacuum being in the wrong place. Then it’s morphed to tears about the despairing nature of our lives. In the evening she has cooked me a 2 course meal and bought me something.

This AM I baricaded myself in my office and she was literally taunting me in my ear. 90 minutes later and I have bacon and eggs delivered with a smile. Then an angry text because I moved a chair.

cant live with them. Cant…..live with them.

She is acting like a spoiled child.

 

[B80]

that’s being kind to spoiled children.

she’s now doing something she often does when she’s having a very emotional period (these are about once a year at this intensity)
Cooking. She manically cooks for hours.
think it’s some kind of hormone nest making thing

Sounds like she's making a meal out of it.

 

[dude99]

that’s being kind to spoiled children.

she’s now doing something she often does when she’s having a very emotional period (these are about once a year at this intensity)
Cooking. She manically cooks for hours.
think it’s some kind of hormone nest making thing

Cooking is fine. Picking stupid fights and acting like a spoiled brat isn't