PLS HELP!! Scared of losing reputation/value

[chicksrock]

Ok this is a MAJOR PROBLEM I am going through at the moment

I am breaking out of the old idealistic me... I used to believe in true love and finding that one perfect girl...

with this new me ...I able to attract in particular this "one perfect girl"...!!

to make maters more confusing... this "one perfect girl" (=shy HB) is kind of unpredictable and gives mixed signals? ie one moment she is desperate for me and the other moment doesn't call me at all!

I have potential for some wild pvssy on the side....
but I don't want to go for wild pvssy just incase shy HB finds out..cause if shy HB finds out she will KICK MY ASSSSS...

i don't know what to do ....its like catch 22 ...

i feel if i go for wilder *****... that is all that i will get in the future... and no shy HB or "one perfect girl" will date me ...
I feel like i'm clinging onto this NICE GUY REPUTATION for dear life...and that it is the only thing of value that will get me the idealistic woman I want.

I think these values have been ingrained into me by my traditional family...
they encourage no sex before marriage and other similar idealistic ideologies...

I know i should probably just go for wilder ***** but 2 things are stopping me
1) fear that no shy HB will accept me in the future
2) fvcking serious case of oneitis with the current shy HB i have found!!!

HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP ME PLEASEEEEEE!!!

 

[chicksrock]

I know my post sounds very SOFT....
its not that I am total AFC or anything...

I just HONESTLY have the belief that i need such a shy HB for the long run...that it is best for me to do so.

Its a shame that such shy HB's are giving me problems and preventing me from moving on to better things (like tasty wild pvssy )

then I lose out both ways

i feel guilty going for wild pvssy thinking i will hence never get the longterm shy HB i want...

can people understand my stupid dilemma...?
i know it is stupid...somebody please talk some sense into me!

 

[Dirtheart]

At one time (early in my DJ studies) I'd have told you to next this shy girl and go wild. But I have recently learned to use the DJ advice and my new found mindset to attract one special woman who is head over heels for me, and that's what I've wanted from the moment I arrived on this board.

This is the girl btw and how I played things: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=53842

The fact here is that you want a nice shy girl so why settle for less?

Just keep the DJ wisdom in your head at all times. I.e. don't supplicate, don't appear needy, have confidence in yourself and keep these other options as a back up as a way to kill your oneitis/desperation.

The only problem you have here is that you are placing this girl on a pedestal and are undermining yourself as a result.

I'd definitely suggest you pursue her if that's what you want, but try to kill the oneitis before you do.

 

[squirrels]

Ahahaha you're setting yourself up for a let-down.

Last Monday I went out with this girl who completely blew my mind. I was starting to think there was some potential for girlfriend-ing her. I started to drop some of the sluttier leads I had because I felt like they just didnt' measure up to her caliber.

She's already starting to slip from that position. I'm left wishing I had hung on to some of those other numbers.

Oh, I might still girlfriend her if I can pull it off, but believe me it won't be exclusive, unless she turns out to be an awesome fcuk.

Stop pedestaling her. Maybe you're into the shy girls. That's fine. Go after what you're into and don't go after what doesn't turn you on. Shy p***y is clean p***y, plus the challenge will give you some experience. Just don't sit there and talk about the "perfect girl", because that's an oxymoron.

 

[chicksrock]

thanks for the great advice guyz...
you give me new inspiration always..