"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Former member, Pan87 once wrote me the following when discussing why I couldn't find a woman of supposed good character sexually attractive.

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you seem to prioritize abstract feelings of attraction that you can't quite define over a good woman.
Pan87 was attempting to push the concept of a mind/body dichotomy. The truth is, that there is no separation between mind and body because they are one. Finding this particular "good" woman unattractive was an expression of who I am.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Respect is needed to maintain all of this. No respect = no love. Selflessness is not respected. The key to being respected and loved is selfishness.
How could you be respect by others while being selfishness?
How could you nourish other lives by not being Selflessness?
Women get turned on by violence
Always wanted to put this element inside my skillset.
I might still fail to do so. I'm just short as ****, and I might not compete in this realm?
Girls are turned on by non-submission, wants a provider that is submissive
This is a contradiction, I cannot understand, Wdym?
 
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I'm glad you are asking.


How could you be respect by others while being selfishness?
Being rational and selfish means being sane and effective. Being selfish doesn't mean stealing from anyone or being rude without cause to another person, for example.

How could you nourish other lives by not being Selflessness?
The best way to help someone is for you to be selfish. Your interactions ought to have a purpose, the essence of that purpose is your survival. Being selfless means giving something away that is not in accordance with who you are. Selflessness is self-destructive and harmful to other people as well because they would be gaining something that they didn't earn or would be properly grateful for.


Always wanted to put this element inside my skillset.
I might still fail to do so. I'm just short as ****, and I might not compete in this realm?
That's an observation that was pointed out a long time ago on this forum, like 20 years ago. I am not at all endorsing violence. You have to remember that we humans evolved from being animals, and morality doesn't apply to nature. We human beings carry with us what nature has given to us through hundreds of millions of years of evolution. Over the last few thousand years humans have evolved to control nature on purpose, and with that ability, also comes the standards of happiness, suffering, hope, and despair.


This is a contradiction, I cannot understand, Wdym?
Imagine wanting a relationship with a sweet, beautiful woman, but also wanting easy sex from multiple women.

For women, they want to feel safe and aroused. Imagine if they can feel safe without having to develop themselves. Women are aroused by men who are selfish and effective, and feel extra safe if they can get the 'betas' to provide for them as their servants.
 

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Women are aroused by men who are selfish and effective, and feel extra safe if they can get the 'betas' to provide for them as their servants.
Well your comments are always so good I want to know more about.
"selfish and effective and beta"

I still can't draw the treshold between being "beta" (needy, affectionate,cuddly, provider) and a "selfish".
I still can't understand how a good men should behave.

I haven't a good mature men figure to take insipration from. Im sorry about that.
 

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Well your comments are always so good I want to know more about.
"selfish and effective and beta"

I still can't draw the treshold between being "beta" (needy, affectionate,cuddly, provider) and a "selfish".
I still can't understand how a good men should behave.

I haven't a good mature men figure to take insipration from. Im sorry about that.
I didn't communicate this very well so let me explain in another way.

'alpha' = selfish --> turns on the dopamine (excitement)

'beta' = makes her feel safe --> turns on the oxytocin (bonding)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I didn't communicate this very well so let me explain in another way.

'alpha' = selfish --> turns on the dopamine (excitement)

'beta' = makes her feel safe --> turns on the oxytocin (bonding)
Niice!
Now I can comprehend.
I have the "beta" quality, because I can easly do that, (tame women caos).
Then, I need to learn why,when,where,how be "selfish".
So I can be a complete man!

Is this correct?
 

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Niice!
Now I can comprehend.
I have the "beta" quality, because I can easly do that, (tame women caos).
Then, I need to learn why,when,where,how be "selfish".
So I can be a complete man!

Is this correct?
You have to teach yourself and depending on your background, may take a while. If you have a religious background, teaching yourself to be selfish will take longer. It's recognizing your needs are important.
 
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