"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Former member, Pan87 once wrote me the following when discussing why I couldn't find a woman of supposed good character sexually attractive.

Pan87 said:
you seem to prioritize abstract feelings of attraction that you can't quite define over a good woman.
Pan87 was attempting to push the concept of a mind/body dichotomy. The truth is, that there is no separation between mind and body because they are one. Finding this particular "good" woman unattractive was an expression of who I am.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Respect is needed to maintain all of this. No respect = no love. Selflessness is not respected. The key to being respected and loved is selfishness.
How could you be respect by others while being selfishness?
How could you nourish other lives by not being Selflessness?
Women get turned on by violence
Always wanted to put this element inside my skillset.
I might still fail to do so. I'm just short as ****, and I might not compete in this realm?
Girls are turned on by non-submission, wants a provider that is submissive
This is a contradiction, I cannot understand, Wdym?
 
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I'm glad you are asking.


How could you be respect by others while being selfishness?
Being rational and selfish means being sane and effective. Being selfish doesn't mean stealing from anyone or being rude without cause to another person, for example.

How could you nourish other lives by not being Selflessness?
The best way to help someone is for you to be selfish. Your interactions ought to have a purpose, the essence of that purpose is your survival. Being selfless means giving something away that is not in accordance with who you are. Selflessness is self-destructive and harmful to other people as well because they would be gaining something that they didn't earn or would be properly grateful for.


Always wanted to put this element inside my skillset.
I might still fail to do so. I'm just short as ****, and I might not compete in this realm?
That's an observation that was pointed out a long time ago on this forum, like 20 years ago. I am not at all endorsing violence. You have to remember that we humans evolved from being animals, and morality doesn't apply to nature. We human beings carry with us what nature has given to us through hundreds of millions of years of evolution. Over the last few thousand years humans have evolved to control nature on purpose, and with that ability, also comes the standards of happiness, suffering, hope, and despair.


This is a contradiction, I cannot understand, Wdym?
Imagine wanting a relationship with a sweet, beautiful woman, but also wanting easy sex from multiple women.

For women, they want to feel safe and aroused. Imagine if they can feel safe without having to develop themselves. Women are aroused by men who are selfish and effective, and feel extra safe if they can get the 'betas' to provide for them as their servants.
 

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Women are aroused by men who are selfish and effective, and feel extra safe if they can get the 'betas' to provide for them as their servants.
Well your comments are always so good I want to know more about.
"selfish and effective and beta"

I still can't draw the treshold between being "beta" (needy, affectionate,cuddly, provider) and a "selfish".
I still can't understand how a good men should behave.

I haven't a good mature men figure to take insipration from. Im sorry about that.
 

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Well your comments are always so good I want to know more about.
"selfish and effective and beta"

I still can't draw the treshold between being "beta" (needy, affectionate,cuddly, provider) and a "selfish".
I still can't understand how a good men should behave.

I haven't a good mature men figure to take insipration from. Im sorry about that.
I didn't communicate this very well so let me explain in another way.

'alpha' = selfish --> turns on the dopamine (excitement)

'beta' = makes her feel safe --> turns on the oxytocin (bonding)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I didn't communicate this very well so let me explain in another way.

'alpha' = selfish --> turns on the dopamine (excitement)

'beta' = makes her feel safe --> turns on the oxytocin (bonding)
Niice!
Now I can comprehend.
I have the "beta" quality, because I can easly do that, (tame women caos).
Then, I need to learn why,when,where,how be "selfish".
So I can be a complete man!

Is this correct?
 

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Niice!
Now I can comprehend.
I have the "beta" quality, because I can easly do that, (tame women caos).
Then, I need to learn why,when,where,how be "selfish".
So I can be a complete man!

Is this correct?
You have to teach yourself and depending on your background, may take a while. If you have a religious background, teaching yourself to be selfish will take longer. It's recognizing your needs are important.
 
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