"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PDubb75

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Ok, I'm gonna give PlentyOfFish a try. Why not, right? I was trying to think of something different, as I looked through some guys' profiles and they all say the SAME THING!

Due to the fact this is very new for me (and I wrote it an hour past my bed time!) I am looking for some suggestions, advice, criticisms... anything. I won't be offended if you hate it, just give me the dirt straight up.

About Me
Is anyone else bored of seeing the same things in every profile? Let's make it interesting. Message me back with the answers you think are correct, and MAYBE I'll get back to you ;)

1. Do I wear boxers or briefs?
2. Cubs fan or White Sox fan?
3. What music do I listen to?
a. Rock
b. Hip Hop
c. Country
4. (Heres the hard one) What country do I want to travel to most?
a. Sorry, no choices here! Time to think.

Good luck! :)

First Date
For a first date I would like to keep it simple. A quick lunch or grabbing a drink works great to start to get to know someone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No advice? Criticisms? Anything? Not even you, Naughty Ninja? I thought you would be all over a POF thread.
 

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Ran to work. I forgot this thread. Anyway..

About Me
Is anyone else bored of seeing the same things in every profile? Let's make it interesting. Message me back with the answers you think are correct, and MAYBE I'll get back to you

1. Do I wear boxers or briefs?
2. Cubs fan or White Sox fan?
3. What music do I listen to?
a. Rock
b. Hip Hop
c. Country
4. (Heres the hard one) What country do I want to travel to most?
a. Sorry, no choices here! Time to think.

Good luck!


No good looking girl is going to read and reply to your test UNLESS you look great in pictures. You need a beach pic. I wouldn't even send that as an intro message UNLESS you look like a 9 or above in guy looks. They'll just delete it...You only need a simple "about me" section with NO negativity or putting anyone down. Just a carefree fun guy attitude..The first date section is fine below...

First Date
For a first date I would like to keep it simple. A quick lunch or grabbing a drink works great to start to get to know someone.

Either copy and paste and spam (tweaking every so often to not get picked up as spam by POF. Only a word or two change will do) the POF email I made up or make up your own generic yet seemingly "tailored" to their profile fun lighthearted message and spam it out. They see your pictures with the email...so have your best up and they WILL reply. Especially if you work out and have a non-posed beach pic...I'm sure many would respond to a shirtless bathroom pic too...just don't have it as your main pic..
 

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When you write your profile, think of a car commercial-- where all they do is play music and show images. Their idea is to create a FEELING, not "sell" a car. You can do the same thing, using words and ideas. It's what romance fiction is about. Create memories of experiences that haven't yet happened.
Avoid using "I" in your sentences. Instead, write about YOU.

When I created my page on the horsie-singles site, I looked at what the men were writing-- it was all the same crap.
I wondered at first how I could go up against these guys who all have spreads in the country, but that was no problem. I made myself up to be the total opposite! Women emailed from all over the country, saying what a great page I had.
 

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Hmm, thanks for the input guys. I'm gonna work on it some more. I think I may have tried too hard to be different, and ended up going an unnecessary route. I appreciate any additional suggestions anyone has.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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