"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Please read this.. i f*cked up big time

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I have made the biggest mistake of my life, I lost the girl of my dreams. We have been together for 6 months and I told her I couldn't have a relationship if we werent gonna have more sex. She hung up on me and she will barely talk to me, she said that I broke up with her. I have been mentally f*cked up since. This happened yesterday afternoon. I am completely crushed. She was my first girlfriend and she took my virginity from me also. I am 20 years old. I want her back badly, I know she is the one for me... I have been doing everything on here to be a don juan or whatever, and it has done the opposite for me. She thinks I'm a complete *******. I need to get her back otherwise I'm going to do something stupid. Please help me guys, please.. i truly love her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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theapprentice

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I know

I know it hurts alot now but over time if you guys dont get back together the pain will always subside.

I would be a little mad if a girl that I was dating would come to the conclusion that I broke up with her by just hanging up the phone, she could possibly be fed up with the relationship long before and just needed an excuse. And whats with her no giving you sex, sex isn't a barganing chip for her to use.

She seems to have lost intrest, and you need to move on and try to picture your life without her.

I know it difficult but there isnt much I can say that will make you feel better right now. Your going to have to figure it out for yourself.
 

spesmilitis

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If being a don juan had an opposite affect on you, why did you continue to do it? Be yourself first. Better question, did you like yourself when you were a don juan. If the answer is yes, then its her fault. If its not, then its your fault.

Why do you want someone so badly who doesn't understand you at all. To me, she sounds like an idiot. You did not say you broke up with her, you said you needed more sex.

If she is the one for you, you do not need to do 'everything' to have a relationship with her. If she is the one for you, you need to do 50% of the work to have a relationship.

If you haven't dated and have more girlfriends, there is no way you know she is 'the one'. There are plently of girls out there. Maybe you feel she is the one cuz she's the hottest girl to out with you. If you could get any girl you want, personallity and looks wise, would you stick with her?

There are plently of girls who enjoy sex, are understanding, caring, and have a good mind. They just take some time to find, but you'll definatly find one if you search.

If you are still interested in being with her, just be honest. Tell her that you made some mistakes and have some flaws in your personallity, but you still have feelings for her and would like to give the relationship another shot.
 

Phyzzle

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She didn't break up because you asked for more sex. Her interest must have been going down for a while.

She's been slowly having less and less sex, right? That's falling desire. Things must have been wrong for a while.

Besides, chicks under 25 fall in and out of love for no reason.

I need to get her back
Kiss of death there.

I'm guessing you've called and texted a few dozen times apologizing. One apology is enough, but when a chick says it's over, the only thing you can do is dissappear for two weeks. Start trying to find other girls, and see if this one comes around, but don't count on it.
 
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look dude if shes the girl of ur dreams then sex shouldnt matter and what u said was one of the dumbest things ive ever heard

to love someone is to want the best for them so if u love her u let her go for now and if she loves u shell come back

o ya and say ur sry
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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