I have made the biggest mistake of my life, I lost the girl of my dreams. We have been together for 6 months and I told her I couldn't have a relationship if we werent gonna have more sex. She hung up on me and she will barely talk to me, she said that I broke up with her. I have been mentally f*cked up since. This happened yesterday afternoon. I am completely crushed. She was my first girlfriend and she took my virginity from me also. I am 20 years old. I want her back badly, I know she is the one for me... I have been doing everything on here to be a don juan or whatever, and it has done the opposite for me. She thinks I'm a complete *******. I need to get her back otherwise I'm going to do something stupid. Please help me guys, please.. i truly love her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Please read this.. i f*cked up big time
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
theapprentice
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I know
I know it hurts alot now but over time if you guys dont get back together the pain will always subside.
I would be a little mad if a girl that I was dating would come to the conclusion that I broke up with her by just hanging up the phone, she could possibly be fed up with the relationship long before and just needed an excuse. And whats with her no giving you sex, sex isn't a barganing chip for her to use.
She seems to have lost intrest, and you need to move on and try to picture your life without her.
I know it difficult but there isnt much I can say that will make you feel better right now. Your going to have to figure it out for yourself.
I know it hurts alot now but over time if you guys dont get back together the pain will always subside.
I would be a little mad if a girl that I was dating would come to the conclusion that I broke up with her by just hanging up the phone, she could possibly be fed up with the relationship long before and just needed an excuse. And whats with her no giving you sex, sex isn't a barganing chip for her to use.
She seems to have lost intrest, and you need to move on and try to picture your life without her.
I know it difficult but there isnt much I can say that will make you feel better right now. Your going to have to figure it out for yourself.
spesmilitis
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If being a don juan had an opposite affect on you, why did you continue to do it? Be yourself first. Better question, did you like yourself when you were a don juan. If the answer is yes, then its her fault. If its not, then its your fault.
Why do you want someone so badly who doesn't understand you at all. To me, she sounds like an idiot. You did not say you broke up with her, you said you needed more sex.
If she is the one for you, you do not need to do 'everything' to have a relationship with her. If she is the one for you, you need to do 50% of the work to have a relationship.
If you haven't dated and have more girlfriends, there is no way you know she is 'the one'. There are plently of girls out there. Maybe you feel she is the one cuz she's the hottest girl to out with you. If you could get any girl you want, personallity and looks wise, would you stick with her?
There are plently of girls who enjoy sex, are understanding, caring, and have a good mind. They just take some time to find, but you'll definatly find one if you search.
If you are still interested in being with her, just be honest. Tell her that you made some mistakes and have some flaws in your personallity, but you still have feelings for her and would like to give the relationship another shot.
Why do you want someone so badly who doesn't understand you at all. To me, she sounds like an idiot. You did not say you broke up with her, you said you needed more sex.
If she is the one for you, you do not need to do 'everything' to have a relationship with her. If she is the one for you, you need to do 50% of the work to have a relationship.
If you haven't dated and have more girlfriends, there is no way you know she is 'the one'. There are plently of girls out there. Maybe you feel she is the one cuz she's the hottest girl to out with you. If you could get any girl you want, personallity and looks wise, would you stick with her?
There are plently of girls who enjoy sex, are understanding, caring, and have a good mind. They just take some time to find, but you'll definatly find one if you search.
If you are still interested in being with her, just be honest. Tell her that you made some mistakes and have some flaws in your personallity, but you still have feelings for her and would like to give the relationship another shot.
She didn't break up because you asked for more sex. Her interest must have been going down for a while.
She's been slowly having less and less sex, right? That's falling desire. Things must have been wrong for a while.
Besides, chicks under 25 fall in and out of love for no reason.
I'm guessing you've called and texted a few dozen times apologizing. One apology is enough, but when a chick says it's over, the only thing you can do is dissappear for two weeks. Start trying to find other girls, and see if this one comes around, but don't count on it.
She's been slowly having less and less sex, right? That's falling desire. Things must have been wrong for a while.
Besides, chicks under 25 fall in and out of love for no reason.
Kiss of death there.I need to get her back
I'm guessing you've called and texted a few dozen times apologizing. One apology is enough, but when a chick says it's over, the only thing you can do is dissappear for two weeks. Start trying to find other girls, and see if this one comes around, but don't count on it.
The Columbus Myth
Don Juan
look dude if shes the girl of ur dreams then sex shouldnt matter and what u said was one of the dumbest things ive ever heard
to love someone is to want the best for them so if u love her u let her go for now and if she loves u shell come back
o ya and say ur sry
to love someone is to want the best for them so if u love her u let her go for now and if she loves u shell come back
o ya and say ur sry
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.