"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I've been dating this girl for 2 months now. All seems well and fun. However, some intresting comments came up recently and I really don't understand the meaning or truth. Any advice/thoughts would be appreciated.

Her:Things are moving fast and I dont know what to take of it.
Me: How are things moving fast?
Her: Nevermind, things are great. It's just me I guess.
Me: Should I take what you said as a bad thing?
Her: No, I hope not.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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******** to English translation:

Her:Things are moving fast and I dont know what to take of it.

I'm spending more time with you than I'm able to justify my desire to go out with other guys, and if I don't toss out this disclaimer now I wont have an OUT later on should I meet up with a better prospect.


Me: How are things moving fast?

Oh sh!t he's not getting it, backpedal, back pedal,...

Her: Nevermind, things are great. It's just me I guess.
He's not taking the hint, I'd better be self-depreciating and try another approach.

Me: Should I take what you said as a bad thing?

Her: No, I hope not.
yes, well,..only if that cute guy I met at the club last night calls me back
 
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How many times have you slept together and when was the first time?
 
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Krang! said:
How many times have you slept together and when was the first time?
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3 Times. First time was roughly 3 weeks after meeting her.
 
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Bronxtal112 said:
3 Times. First time was roughly 3 weeks after meeting her.
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wow - first time 3 weeks into it and then only twice more in two months and she thinks things are moving to fast? That's a load of BS - well it's always BS when women say things are moving to fast...
I think Rollo is right on target - she is creating an OUT. Have you been the attention giver, the one initiating dates and calling first afterwards and so on? Maybe she has become to certain of your attention already and that makes her think in directions like "do I really want to get more engaged with this guy?" instead of "what should I do next to keep him liking me?". If this is the case perhaps distance yourself a little?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yea man, this isn't good.

You should have agreed to the moving too fast part and then said that you had been feeling the same for a while too and perhaps you shouldn't see each other for a while and start dating other people.

If she liked you then she would contact you to meet up after realising her mistake. If she didn't then you exited gracefully.

Tell us how this goes! It would be interesting for the group.
 
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Funny.

I'm always the one to say "I think we are going to fast." first. I make sure to throw it out about the 3rd date.

It's a power thing. If I say it, she wonders what's going on with ME. "Why is this too fast? Is he getting away? Am I doing something that's putting him off? Is there another woman?"

You gotta beat them to the punch with that little bomb.

If you don't manage to use that before they do, here's how you reply:

Her: "Things are moving fast and I don't know what to make of it."
You: "Yeah, we do get along pretty well together, huh? It freaked me out at first too, but now I'm just enjoying it."

or

You: "I know! You could make a pinata out of it and try to hit it with a stick!"
 
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Vulpine said:
Funny.

I'm always the one to say "I think we are going to fast." first. I make sure to throw it out about the 3rd date.
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Hahaha. I did the same with my current girlfriend. We were talking (4 or 5 days after we kissed, etc.) and she suggested some things (we were not even "together" as in a committed relationship, in fact, I was not sure of what I wanted with her) and I said, "Don't you think we are going to fast?" (note: I typically never use the "yes" and "no" questions, but I intentionally did this time as to study her reaction)...LOL. It was a beauty.

I admit...looking back, when I first met her...I "played" things to 100% perfection. And she developed a very strong attraction for me.
 
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Is this the same broad you were describing in your Mixed Signals thread?
 
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Busted...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Is this the same broad you were describing in your Mixed Signals thread?
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Nah, I am currently dating 2 girls right now. Both of which have been driving me insane
 
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Bronxtal112 said:
Nah, I am currently dating 2 girls right now. Both of which have been driving me insane
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Geez, I have to call bullsh1t on this one...It's the internet, man, we're all anonymous. You have to tell the truth before anyone can actually help you. Just take RT's advice and be done with it...
 
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Bronxtal112 said:
Nah, I am currently dating 2 girls right now. Both of which have been driving me insane
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If you are going to be wasting our times by LYING...that's fine. But like somebody said above...it is the Internet and NOBODY knows you.

So...for better advice, be honest.
 
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